Nei Uchifanira Kutaura Nevatorwa

Zvemukati

• Pfungwa dzakakosha
• Kunyanya Kuchenjerera Kunotiita Kuti Tishaye pahukama
• Taura neMutorwa

Pfungwa dzakakosha

• Midhiya mameseji ezvekushayikwa kwevana akakurudzira kutya kuvabereki, avo vakabva vatora chidziviriro, chakasvinura.
• Gen Z uye Millennials, vakadzidziswa kusataura nevasingazive, vakakurira vasina kudzidza nzira yekudyidzana nevasingazive zvachose.
• Semhando yemagariro, tinofanirwa kudyidzana pamwe nevamwe kwete chete kuti tiite zvinhu, asi zvakare kuti tigare tiine moyo wakanaka.

Muna 1979, Etan Patz, ane makore matanhatu, akanyangarika achifamba kuenda kuchiteshi chake chemabhazi muchikamu chezasi cheManhattan. Uyezve, muna 1981 nekushaikwa kwaAdam Walsh, rudzi rwakaoma. Mifananidzo yevana vasipo yakaratidzwa pamakatoni emukaka evana ekuti vatarise pavanenge vachidya ndiro dzezviyo zvemangwanani. Kurambidzwa kwakatenderedza izvo zvaigona kuitwa kana kugona kuitwa nevana zvakachinja.

Kunyangwe zviitiko izvi zvisati zvavhunduka uye zvakashambadzirwa zvikuru, ndakanyora kabhuku kapfupi, "Ice Cream Haisi Nguva Dzose Yakanaka," zvichibva pamushumo wenhau wemunzvimbo yemurume wechienzi mumota yebhuruu padhuze nepuraimari yevana vangu vokurera. Kabhuku aka kakagoverwa munyika nemapurisa uye zvikoro, uye kuvabereki. Yakazove iro bhuku Usamboti Hongu kune Mutorwa: Zvinofanira Kuzivikanwa Nemwana Wako Kuti Agare Akachengeteka uye yave ichidhindwa nenzira dzakasiyana kwemakumi emakore. Iyo nyaya uye mameseji akabatsira vabereki nevadzidzisi kudzidzisa vana vadiki mutsauko pakati pevasingazive vakanaka uye vaizobatsira uye nevaya vanogona kuvakuvadza. Yakagadzirirwa kupa maturusi evana vadiki vanoda kugara vakachengeteka kana vari vega, vasina anotarisirwa.

Midhiya meseji dzakakomberedza vana vakashaika, dzimwe nguva vachitsausa nekutadza kusiyanisa pakati pevana vakatiza nevaya vakatorwa, vakavhunduka vabereki avo vakabva vadzikisira zvakanyanya rusununguko rwevana. Vabereki vakatanga kufamba-famba uye vakaramba vari mune yakanyanya kudzivirira, yakangwarira mamiriro.

Kunyanya Kuchenjerera Kunotiita Kuti Tishaye pahukama

Mubhuku rake, Yako Tendeuka: Ungave Sei Munhu Mukuru, Julie Lythcott-Haims anokurukura kuti kufamba kwakarasika sei uye kuti kubata vana vedu kwakabata sei vechidiki nhasi uye "kwakavatungamira kuti vachenjerere uye semhedzisiro [ivo] vari kurasikirwa nzira yekuumba hukama hwakakosha kumufaro wedu wega . ”

Chitsauko chake, "Tanga Kutaura Nevatorwa," chinovhura nechirevo, "Usataure nevasingazive," icho chakatemerwa "Wese." Uku kwaive kukanganisa kwakadaro, anonyora kuti:

"Saizvozvo, vazhinji veMillennial neGen Z vana vakarerwa nemantra 'Usataure nevasingazive.' Izvi zvaireva kuti hapana kutaurirana kwemazwi nevasingazive uyezve usaende navo chero kupi, futi. Asi zvakamonyoroka mukusatarisana nemeso nevasingazive, uye nekusaita madiki chitchats nevasingazive munzira kana muzvitoro. Ipapo yakava yekuregeredza vausingazive zvachose. Vazhinji vana vakakurira kwete chete kutya iyo chaiyo pfungwa yevausingazive, asi chaizvo vasingazive nzira yekudyidzana navo. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vana havana kudzidza kufamba munzira dzekudyidzana dzakapihwa nemunhu wavanga vasati vatoziva. Uye ipapo ivo vakapedza chikoro chesekondari uye vakaenda munyika, uko hupenyu hwavo hwakazara. . . vatorwa.

“Pano panouya pfungwa ingave iri pachena yandichaita mubhuku rino: tese tisingazive kune mumwe nemumwe pakutanga. Zvino, neimwe nzira, tinova vanozivana nevamwe veavo (vekare) vatorwa, uye vamwe veavo vanozivana vanoshanduka kuva vavakidzani, shamwari, vatinoshanda navo, vanopa mazano, vadikani, vatinoshanda navo, uye mhuri. Tsvagiridzo kubva kuminda yekushanduka-shanduka biology, anthropology, uye magariro psychology zvinoratidza kuti isu tiri vehukama hwemhando dzinofanirwa kudyidzana pamwe nemutsa pamwe chete kwete kungoita zvinhu zviitwe asi kuti vagare zvakanaka pamoyo. Kutsvagisa kunotoratidza kuti kudyidzana nevanhu vanozogara vasingazivikanwe nesu (kureva.

Taura neMutorwa

Pakufamba nebhazi muNew York City makore akati wandei apfuura ndakanzwa vakadzi vaviri vachikurukura nezveresitorendi yandaifarira kuziva nezvayo. Saka panzvimbo yekuteerera, ndakavakumbira kuti vandiudze nezvazvo. Takatanga kukurukura. Zvakangoitikawo, mumwe wevakadzi vanogara pedyo neni uye ave shamwari yepedyo. Pre-denda takaita zvinhu zvakawanda pamwe chete muguta uye tave kutsigirana kwepamoyo kune mumwe nemumwe. Pakangoti CDC yati yakachengeteka kutangazve kusangana nevari kunze kwemakanda edu, ndine chokwadi chekuti tichazotangazve hushamwari hwedu hwekutarisana-uyo akazvarwa zvachose nekutaura nemutorwa.

Denda iri rakasimbisa kuti chero zera redu, tinoda kusangana-kumeso-kwete mapeji enhau enhau "shamwari", asi vanhu vatinogona kutarisa mumaziso, uye, munguva pfupi, kumbundirana zvakare. Kana iwe wakarererwa pasi pemantra inoti "Usataure nevasingazive," kuumba hukama ihwohwo kunogona kusagadzikana pakutanga, asi sekuyeuchidza kunoita Lythcott-Haims vaverengi, "hazvisi izvo chete zvakanaka kutaura nevasingazive, iwe unoda kudaro. Unofanira. Handeyi."