Waive Mwana Akasimba Here?

Uropi hwevanhu hunosiyana. Kutsvagurudza kwakaratidza kuti vamwe vanhu vanozvarwa vaine hunyanzvi hwekugadzira iyo inogona kuvaita kuti vawedzere pamoyo kana nehungwaru hwakasimba, hune hanya, uye hwakavhurika kune zvinokurudzira zvekunze kupfuura huwandu hwevanhu.

Ivo vanoziva zvakanyanya hunyengeri; uropi hwavo hunogadzira ruzivo uye hunoratidzira pairi zvakadzama. Pakugona kwavo, vanogona kuve vanonzwisisa zvakanyanya, intuitive, uye vanonyatsocherechedza husavi hwezvakatipoteredza. Asi zvakadaro vanokurirwa nemafungu anogara achiitika ehunhu uye vamwe 'vepfungwa uye masimba epfungwa.

Kubva pakuenda-kuenda, nzira yakasimba yevanhu yekuona uye kuve munyika haina kugovaniswa neavo vakavakomberedza. Sezvo vachifunga zvakanyanya uye vachinzwa zvakanyanya, vanosvikawo pamiganhu yavo nekukurumidza. Ivo vanokanganisika zviri nyore nenharaunda yavo uye nevaya vakavakomberedza, izvo zvinogona kuwedzera kukanganiswa kwezviitiko zvinotambudza kana kushomeka mumakore avo ekutanga.

Zvinosuruvarisa, nekuda kwekushayikwa kwekuziva uye kunzwisisa zvese mumhuri uye nepasirese pasirese, vana vazhinji vane simba vakura vachidzidzisa dzidziso yekuti pane chakashata pavari, kana kuti neimwe nzira vane hurema, zvakawandisa ', kana kunyangwe 'chepfu.'

​ "Ini ndakasiyana, kwete zvishoma '" - Tembere Muzukuru

MAAPURO ANODONHARA KURE NEMITI

Dambudziko rakasarudzika rinomuka kana mwana akashushikana pamoyo akazvarwa mumhuri mune iyo vabereki kana vanin'ina vasingashande zvakafanana.

Mubasa rake risingaperi 'Kure neMuti,' Andrew Soloman anogadzirisa mutsauko uripo pakati peyakagara nhaka (yakamira) uye nekuzvimiririra kusiyanisa (yakatwasuka) kuzivikanwa. Kazhinji, vana vazhinji vanogovana zvimwe hunhu nemhuri yavo: Vana vane ruvara vanozvarwa kuvabereki vane ruvara; Vanhu vanotaura chiGiriki vanorera vana vavo kuti vataure chiGiriki. Aya hunhu uye hunhu zvinopfuudzwa kubva kumubereki kuenda kumwana kumarudzi ese kuburikidza neDNA netsika dzetsika. Nekudaro, vana havawanzo fanika sevabereki vavo; vanogona kutakura majeni ekurasa uye hunhu hwakawandisa kupfuura hunogona kudzorwa nemunhu. Kana mumwe munhu akawana hunhu hwusingazivikanwe nemubereki, zvinonzi 'hunhu hwakananga.' Kuzivikanwa kwakatwasuka kunogona kusanganisira kuve ngochani, kuva nehurema hwepanyama, kuva neatism, kuve nehungwaru kana kunzwira tsitsi.

Zvinogona kuve zvakaomesesa kunetsa kune chero vabereki vanoratidzwa nevana vane nzira dzekuve uye zvavanoda zviri zvevatorwa kwavari. Mwana ngochani anozvarwa kune vabereki vakananga, semuenzaniso, simudza zviuru nezviuru zvematambudziko kana zvasvika pakunzwisisa uye kugamuchirwa. Vertical zvitupa zvinowanzo kuremekedzwa semazita; yakatwasuka inobatwa semhosho. Chero nzira dzisiri dzechivanhu dzekuve, kusanganisira kuwedzeredza pamoyo zvakanyanya uye nekunzwa, dzinowanzo nyonganiswa se'kurwara 'kuti kugadziriswe, pane kuzivikanwa kuti kugamuchirwe.

Tsika yedu inoita chikamu mukusimudzira kudamburwa uku. Pane chimwe chinhu chekare muchimiro chedu chedzinza chinoita kuti vanhu varambe izvo zvatisingazive nazvo. Kunyangwe hazvo pasi redu rese rakaita budiriro huru mukuvhara kupatsanurana pakati pekirasi, murume kana mukadzi, uye rudzi, kuziva nekuremekedza hunhu "neuro-divergent" hunhu hwakadai sekushushikana kwepfungwa hakuna kupaza nekuziva kwevanhu. Senzanga isu tinoramba tichirwadzisa vanhu vane nzira dzakasiyana dzekufunga, kunzwa, zvine hukama uye kuve munyika. Pasi pesimba retsika isingagone kugamuchira kusiyana, vamwe vabereki vakasvika pakuona kuzivikanwa kwemwana wavo seinetso kwete kwete chete asi kunyange kukundikana kana kutukwa.

Zvinotora kumwe kushingirira kuti mhuri dzidzidze kushivirira, kugamuchira, uye pakupedzisira kupemberera vana vasiri izvo zvavaifunga pakutanga. Ichokwadi chekuti hapana "gwara" rekuva mubereki, kunyanya kana mwana wavo asingakwanisike kubatwa nenzira dzakajairika, siya mukaha unorwadza wekusabatana pakati pevabereki nemwana. "Kuva vabereki kunongoerekana kwatipinza muhukama hwechigarire nemunhu watisingazive," akanyora kudaro Andrew Solomon, akaita hurukuro dzinopfuura 4000 dzebhuku rake. Mhuri dzevana vakasimba pamoyo vanounzwa neforogo mumugwagwa; Ivo vanogona kuramba kana kuburitsa mbudzi yemwana wavo nekuda kwekushamisika kwavo, kana ivo vanomukira kuchinoitika uye vanozvibvumira ivo pachavo kuti vashandurwe zvakanyanya nezviitiko zvavo.

"'Varipi vanhu?' Akatangazve muchinda mudiki pakupedzisira. 'Chiri kusurukirwa murenje ...'
‘Inosurukirwa kana uri pakati pevanhu, 'yakadaro nyoka." —Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Iye Muchinda Mudiki

DAMBUDZIKO RINOGONESESA RINOSANGANISWA NEMWANA ANONAKA

Kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchiri kuita mwana,

KUKUNDWA

Kubvira pakuzvarwa, vana vane hukasha vane miganho ine simba inopfuura. Ivo vanonzwa ruzha rwakadzikira, vanoona hwema husina kujeka uye vanocherekedza shanduko dzisinganyatsojeka munzvimbo dzavanogara. Vanogona kuwana zvimwe zvekudya zvakare zvinonaka, kana vasingakwanise kumira kupfeka mamwe machira.

Ivo vanogona kusangana nevamwe vanhu manzwiro, ruzha uye zvimwe zvakatipoteredza zvinhu sekuuya pamusoro uye kunyange mukati mavo, kana kuti ivo vanobatana neavo vavanosangana navo. Kumba, ivo vanonzwa kushanduka kwese uye kutaura kwakasarudzika kwemafungidziro evabereki vavo uye vanofambiswa vachienderera mberi nezviitiko zvisingatapure hama yavo zvakanyanya.

Vana vakasimba vanochenjerera zvisingaite. Ivo vanogara vachiedza kutsvaga nzira chaiyo yezviito uye vanogona kuzviomesera ivo pachavo. Semuenzaniso, ivo vanowanzo funga yakawanda yemitoro muhukama. Kana kukonana kukamuka, vanokasira kufunga kuti vaita chimwe chinhu chisina kunaka, vozokundwa nekuzvishora, uye nyadzi.

Vachizununguswa vachienderera mberi uye vachibayiwa kuburikidza nekusimba kwavo uye zviitiko zvakavatenderedza, vana ava vanogona kusazombowana nzvimbo yepfungwa kana rutsigiro kukudziridza kusimba kwemweya. Kunyangwe sevanhu vakuru, vanogona kunzwa vasina kugadzikana uye vasina kukomberedzwa; uye mukufamba kwenguva, vazhinji vanotambura nemarwadzo epanyama, simba rakadzikiswa uye kuneta.

KUNZWA KUNE ZVINOGARA wega

Mwana akasimba anotakura nzwisiso yakadzama. Ivo vanonzwa kupinda mukurwadziwa kwenyika, zvese vari munharaunda yavo yepedyo uye nepasirese nyika. Ivo vanonzwa kusurukirwa kuve ivo chete vanoziva zviri kuitika pasi pehukama hwehukama hwechinyakare uye kuwirirana; vazhinji vanonzwawo mhosva yekusagona kudzikamisa marwadzo nekutambura kwavanoona.

Pane imwe nhanho, ivo vakura kupfuura vezera ravo. Inezera repfungwa-remweya iro rakura kupfuura ravo chairo, idzi 'mweya yekare' vanonzwa kuti havana kana kumboita hudiki. Vana vane zvipo, kunyanya sezvavanopinda mukuyaruka, vanoona kuti vakuru vari mukutungamira havana kukodzera chiremera chavo.

Kunyangwe vachiita sekuzvimiririra, zvakadzika pasi iyi mweya midiki inotakura shuwa kune mumwe munhu wavanogona kuzendamira pairi, zvine hukama naye, kuti vazopedzisira vazorora nekuchengetwa. Sekutsanangura kwakaita mumwe mwana, vanonzwa “sevatorwa vasiyiwa vakamirira ngarava mai kuti vauye kuzovatora vaende navo” (Webb, 2008).

Kugona kwemwana kugona uye intuition zvinovapawo hupfumi uye hwakadzama-hunoratidza hupenyu hwemukati husina kugovaniswa neavo vakavakomberedza. Ivo vanorwa nekuvapo kunetsekana kwakadai sehupenyu uye kufa uye zvinoreva hupenyu uye vanozviwana vari munyika isina musoro uye isina chinangwa izvo zvavanogona kuita zvishoma kugadzirisa. Nekudaro, pavanoyedza kuudza vamwe zvavanofunga, vanowanzo sangana nekushamisika kana kutovengwa. Pasina munhu wekubatana navo kusvika pakadzika kwehunhu hwavo, kana kucherechedza kuzara kwevari zvavari, vanotakura pfungwa isingazungunuke yekusurukirwa kusvika mukukura.

"Dzimwe nguva zvaitaridza kwaari sekuti hupenyu hwake hwaive husina kusimba sedandelion. Kamwe kakufema kubva chero nzira, uye kwakapepetwa kunge mabhureki." -Katherine Paterson, Bhiriji kuTerabithia

KURASIKA KUZVIMBA NAVO NEVAMWE

Vana vakasimba vanocherekedza hunyengeri, kutambura, kunetsana, uye kuomarara kwenzvimbo dzavanogara, kunyangwe vasati vagona kutaura kana kuzvibata.

Mwana anonzwisisika ane chipo anovhiringidzika nekupokana pakati pekunetseka kwekunzwa kwavanowana kubva kuvakuru uye nechavo chimiro: Ivo vanoona kuburikidza nemasikisi ehunhu, kunyemwerera kwekumanikidzwa, kana kunyepa chena. Musiyano uyu unokonzeresa kuti mwana asavimbe. Kuona kusarongeka kwenzvimbo uye hunyengeri mangwanani-ngwanani zvinovatungamira kuti vanzwe kupererwa uye kusagadzikana.

Kana pavakayedza kugovana zvavanoona, vakavharwa, vanogona kutanga kusahadzika kutonga kwavo, kunzwisisa, kana kuchena. Vangangonzwawo mhosva nekuda kwekufanoona uku. Kana vasingakwanise kuwana chero munhu anonzwisisa chokwadi chavo, vanogona kusarudza- kunyange vasingazive-vanodzikamisa intuition yavo nemanzwiro, vova vechidiki kana vakuru vasingazive zvekutenda, kusarudza, kana wekuvimba naye.

KUDZIDZA ZVAKADZIDZWA

Kana zvabatanidzwa nekutendeseka kwakanyanya, kunzwisisa kunogona kuunza matambudziko pakati pevanhu. Mwana akasimba anonzwa achimanikidzwa kunongedzera zvavanoziva uye havadi kutamba mutambo wesocial facade. Zvinosuruvarisa, kutaura kwavo chokwadi kazhinji hakugamuchirwe munyika.

Sevatumwa vezvokwadi isingakanganise, vanopomerwa mhosva yekukonzera kusawirirana. Pakupedzisira, ivo vanokonzera kushamisika asi zvakanyanya, chikonzero chekusekwa. Kumba, vanova mbudzi. Kuchikoro, vanova chipfuro chevanodheerera kana kudzoserwa kune vakadzingwa pamupendero wezvikwata zvezvikoro.

Kuva nekusarudza pakati pechokwadi chavo uye nekugamuchirwa nevamwe vanhu idambudziko rinotyisa kune chero wechidiki. Mwana ane hushingi anogona kukura achinzwa kuzvishupa zvisingaite nezve mutsauko wavo kubva kune vamwe, kusvika pakunyanyisa, vamwe vanodavira kuti neimwe nzira 'vane chepfu' kana kuti vane njodzi, uye vanogara nekutya kwekugara vachidzingwa kubva kumhuri yavo kana munharaunda yenzanga.

"VaPotter vakanyemwerera ndokuvheyesa Harry uye iye akavatarisira zvine hungu, mavoko ake akatsimbirira kwakatarisana negirazi sekunge anga achitarisira kuwira mukati maro nekusvika kwavari. Aive nerudzi rwakasimba rwekurwadziwa mukati make, hafu mufaro , kusuruvara kwakaipisisa. " - J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter uye dombo reMuroyi

KUFUNGA VAKANGO "ZVAKAKWANA"

Vana vakasimba vane zvavanoda zvakanyanya. Kubvira vachiri vadiki, ivo vanogara nedzvinyiriro yehunhu hwavo uye vane chishuwo chengwaru dzinokurudzira hurukuro, kufungisisa kwakadzama uye mhinduro kune zvinoreva hupenyu. Hupenyu hwavo hwemukati hunobayiwa nehunhu hunoshushikana, kutendiswa kwakasimba, kufungidzira, kukwana uye chishuwo chakasimba. Nekudaro, pasina kunzwisisa kwakakwana kubva kuvakuru vakavakomberedza, vanogona kusanzwisiswa sevanonetsa nemaune. Nekuda kweizvozvo, zvavanoda zvepanyama zvehuwandu hwakaringana hwekusimudzira uye rutsigiro zvinogona kuzodzingwa kana kunyimwa.

Kunyangwe nevabereki vanonyanya kutsigira vanosimbisa kunzwisisika kwavo uye nekumhanyisa, vana vazhinji vane hukasha vanoziva kuti neimwe nzira 'vakawandisa' kune avo vakavakomberedza. Vanogona kushoropodzwa zvakajeka, kana kungorambwa zvachose nekuda kwekuda zvakanyanya, kufamba nekukurumidza, kunyanyisa, kunyanyisa, kupunzika nyore nyore, kana kusashivirira. Vachiziva kuti yavo yechisikigo inogona kukurira vamwe, vanogona kusarudza kuvhara zvishoma nezvishoma, kuvaka 'munhu wenhema,' uye kudzora mufaro wavo neshungu.

"Uye Max, mambo wezvinhu zvese zvemusango, aive akasurukirwa uye aida kuve iko kune mumwe munhu aimuda kupfuura zvese." —Maurice Sendak, Iko Iko Zvinhu Zvemusango Zviri

KUYEUKA MUDZIMAI WAKAWANDA MUNO

Imba yako inogona kana kuti ingadai isina kunge iri nzvimbo yemweya wako wakashata, wakasimba uye une tarenda mweya. (Mutsamba inotevera, tichazotaura nezvevamwe vane huturu hwemhuri hunosuwisa vana vanofarira uye vanonzwira tsitsi vanowanzovharirwa mukati). Kuva wakasiyana kunogona kusurukirwa, asi kutambura chaiko kunobva mukuisa mukati kunzwa kuti iwe, semunhu, zvakanyanyisa 'hazvina kunaka.'

Kana hupenyu hwako hwese iwe wanga uchinzwa seMartian achidzingirwa panyika, zvinogona kutora nguva kuti usangoziva chete asiwo unzwe mumoyo mako kuti kuva wakanyanya hachisi chirwere. Kuva wakasimba kunouya neakakosha kugona uye hunhu. Iwe une unoshamisa hunyanzvi hwekugona kunzwisisa uye kunzwira tsitsi nevamwe, pamwe nekugona kwekufungisisa pamanzwiro ako, zvinangwa, uye zvishuwo. Kubva pane nhoroondo, kusimba kunowanzo kuverengerwa nemamwe marudzi eakajeka matarenda munzvimbo dzemimhanzi, hunyanzvi hwekuona, mitambo, uye kugona. Kufara kwako hakusi kungoenderana chete nechipo; ivo zvipo mavari. Zviri kwauri izvozvi, kupa imba yakachengeteka yemwana wako wemukati. Ino nguva, pasi pemapapiro ako, vanogona kuve nehutano, hwakachengeteka, uye hunonakidza hudiki.

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Mweya wako wakasimba uri musango uye hauna kunyoroveswa.

Kunyangwe iwe ukaedza sei kuvhara iyo, kuitisa, kunyepedzera kuti haipo,

hunhu hwayo hwekuzvimirira hunogara uchipaza.

Dzimwe nguva, chokwadi chako chinokwenenzvera pauri

muchimiro chekutya, rudo, kushamisika, uye mufaro.

Izvo zvinomanikidza zvekuti hauna imwe sarudzo kunze kwekuzvipira kukudururwa kunofadza.

Nezve iyo yakakosha nguva, iwe unonzwa mune yako yakadzika hunhu, isina kumiswa.

Iva wega wemusango, unonakidza, une shungu mweya.

Mwana ane simba mukati mako akamirira, pakupedzisira,

kunzwikwa, kuonekwa, uye kukumbundira zvavari.

“Uri kushamisika. Iwe wakasarudzika. Mumakore ese apfuura, hakuna kumbove nemumwe mwana akaita sewe. Makumbo ako, maoko ako, minwe yako yakangwara, nzira yaunofamba nayo. Unogona kuve Shakespeare, Michelangelo, Beethoven. Unogona kuita chero chinhu. ” -Henry David Thoreau