Matipi Ekukunda Kusavimbika

Zvemukati

• Pfungwa dzakakosha
• Maitiro Ekuita Nani Kuita Mukuita Zvisarudzo

Pfungwa dzakakosha

• Kusarudzika kunoreva kana vanhu vakanonoka kuita sarudzo dzakakosha uye dzinonetsa kana kushushikana pamusoro pesarudzo shoma.
• Dzimwe nzira dzekugadzirisa kusagadzikana dzinosanganisira kugadzira chirongwa chebasa rekutora sarudzo uye kuongorora wega-kutaura kwake pakuita sarudzo.
• Inogona kubatsira kudzikamisa huwandu hwesarudzo dziri kuongororwa, kuyera zvayakanakira nezvayakaipira yesarudzo yega yega, sarudza nguva yekufunga sarudzo dzako, uye ramba uchienderera mberi.

Mune yangu yekupedzisira posvo, ini ndakakoka wandinoshanda naye wekutsvagisa uye shamwari Reza Feyzi Behnagh, mutevedzeri purofesa weDzidzo paSUNY, Albany, kuti vanyorwe kunyora pane izvo kusagadzikana (kunodaidzwa zvakare mukutsvagurudza kwepfungwa, "kusarudzira kusarudza") kuri uye hakusi - kukurukura zvikonzero uye mhedzisiro.

Mune ino posvo, isu tinoenderera mberi kwatakasiya uye tichipa dzimwe "dhata-dzinofambiswa" nzira dzekudzora kusagadzikana. Kusarudzika kunoreva kana vanhu vanowanzo kunonoka kuita sarudzo dzakakosha uye dzinonetsa, vanofunga pamusoro pesarudzo shoma, vozopedzisira vasina kusarudza kana kuita imwe vozopomera kunze kwezvinhu kana sarudzo yavo ichitungamira kumhedzisiro. Kubva pane iyi dudziro, kusagadzikana kuita senge maitiro ekuzvikunda, uye ongororo inoratidza kuti ndizvo chaizvo (ona Ferrari, 2010, uye Ferrari, Johnson & McCown, 1995, kune zvese mhinduro dzinonzwisisika uye kunzwisisa kwesainzi, zvichiteerana). Kana iwe uchida kuziva nezve izvo iwe zvaungaite kudzikamisa kusagadzikana uye kuve nani pakubata zviremera-zvakaremerwa zvekuita sarudzo zviitiko, iwe uri munzvimbo chaiyo. Pano, isu tinopa mashoma anoshanda "indecision kupindira": Tiri kuyedza kuti iwe utore sarudzo , wozozviita .

Maitiro Ekuita Nani Kuita Mukuita Zvisarudzo

Ita chirongwa. Sezvo iwe uchirangarira kubva kune yekupedzisira posvo, vanhu vanogadzikana vanononoka kuita hunhu mukuita sarudzo dzakakosha (Ferrari, 2010). Vanotsvagurudza vakaona kuti kumisikidza chirongwa chinobatika, chekongiri, chenguva pfupi, uye nhanho-yebasa rekutora sarudzo chinoderedza zvakanyanya kuverengera uye kunosimudzira kubudirira (“Ndiri kuzopedza maawa mashanu mangwana kuti ndione zvekuita mota yangu yakare ”), pane kufunga uye kuronga zvisina tsarukano kuita sarudzo mune imwe nguva mune ramangwana (“ Ndichasvika kwazviri kana nguva yacho yasvika ”) (McCrea, Liberman, Trope, & Sherman, 2009).

Wongorora wega-kutaura. Chimwe chezvakakosha kukonzeresa kusarudza kusazvivimba uye kuva nepfungwa dzakashata uye dzekuzvitsoropodza, kusahadzika kugona kwavo. Sezvo nezvimwe zvese muhupenyu, tinowana zvirinani nekudzidzira uye kutanga zvidiki, tichiita sarudzo diki, uye tichiziva uye nemaune kucherechedza mhedzisiro yakanaka inobatsira mukuvaka kuzvivimba, kukurudzira pfungwa yekuzvikwanisa, uye kutarisira kubudirira. Kuongorora nekuteerera kumifungo yako uye kusahadzika-nepo kuita sarudzo kwakakosha zvakafanana. Kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti kushandisa zvemukati-kutaura-kwako kunogona kubatsira kupokana nekunzwa kunovhiringidza nekutenda kusiri kwechokwadi kunoremedza munhu pavanofunga zvekuita sarudzo inonetsa (Schouwenburg, Lay, Pychyl, & Ferrari, 2004).

Ganhurira sarudzo dzako. Kumwe kurudziro kubva kutsvagurudzo senge yekufungidzira kupindira ndeyekuganhurira zvaunogona kusarudza. Yakawanda zvesarudzo zvinogona kutikunda zviri nyore uye zvoita kuti zviome kwazvo kutotanga kufunga sarudzo dziripo. Kana sarudzo isiri kunyange padhuze nekuzadzisa zvaunoda, bvisa izvozvi. Usatore nguva Googling zvese zvakadzama nezvazvo. Tevere, nyora zvaunofunga: Sezvatakakurudzira pakutanga, teerera kune yako yemukati yekutaura. Chii chauri kuzviudza iwe kana uchifanira kusarudza pakati penzira dzakasiyana dzinokwezva zvakaenzana? Pfungwa dzako dzinozadza ne "ko dai" nezve kusarudza imwe sarudzo uye kurasikirwa neizvo zvaizoitika dai iwe wakasarudza imwe? Kuve unozviziva iwe iyi pfungwa ndiyo yekutanga nhanho yakakosha mukuchinja iyo (neyakajeka wega-kutaura).

Ita math. Buritsa notepad yakare uye nyora zvakanakira nekuipira kwesarudzo yega yega uye funga zvaunokoshesa zvakanyanya. Ichi chishandiso chinoshanda sechiyeuchidzo gare gare kana iwe ukambopokana nesarudzo yako mune ramangwana, uye iwe unogona kuitarisa kuti urangarire kuti sei wakaita sarudzo yawakaita uye kudzivirira ramangwana rako pachako kubva pakuzvidemba nekubvunza mhando dzese dze "ko dai." Asi cherekedza Dzimwe nguva, zvayakanakira (kana zvayakanakira) zvinoreva zvakanyanya kwatiri kupfuura zvayakanakira (kana zvayakaipira), saka funga kukosha kwako pachako kwezvinhu zvaunonyora.

Tora nguva yako. Ichi chishandiso chingaratidzika sechisinganzwisisike, asi ita nguva yakakwana yekufunga, asi usamira! Unganidza ruzivo rwese rwaunoda kuti utore danho rine ruzivo, ronga nguva yakakwana pamberi pekufungisisa nezve sarudzo. (Iyi zano inotsigira kwedu kuda, iko kuverengera kuri kwete kunonoka kana kumirira - nekuti kana iwe uri kuunganidza info kuti uite uye sarudza uri kwete kuverengera.) Zviri nyore kwazvo kungodzivirira, kudhara, uye kutarisa Netflix uye udye popcorn pachinzvimbo; asi sarudzo dzakaomarara dzinoda kuitwa uye kuzvidzivirira kunongoisa dendi mukuzvivimba kwako.

Ramba uchienda kumberi. Chekupedzisira asi chisiri chidiki, usacheuke kumashure! Paunenge iwe waita sarudzo, pfuurira mberi uye fambira mberi. Misoro yedu haina kugadzirirwa kutendeuka nzira dzese makumi masere nemasere kumashure: Isu takagadzirwa kuti tifambe kuenda kumberi ... sarudza uye enda kumberi usina kutarisa kumashure.

Chiyeuchidzo nezve kusatarisa kumashure, kwatiri, ichi chirevo kubva muna 1972 mumhanzi, Murume weLa Mancha , uko Don Quixote anoti muhurukuro yake ega semhare pamberi pekuenda kuhondo: "Tarisa nguva dzose kumberi: mudendere regore rapfuura hakuna shiri gore rino." Tinofambira mberi, hatigone kudzokera kune zvakapfuura sezvo nguva ichifamba chete .Shiri hadzidzokeri padendere rimwe chete, uye nesu hatifaniri kudzokera.

Pfupiso: Saka manje?

Muchidimbu, sarudza uye ita . Uchakundikana here? Zvakanaka, pamwe - asi saka chii? Nyika yakaguma here? Mumwe munhu akaurayiwa here? Zvingangodaro, kwete. Isu tinoitwa kuve zvisikwa zvinokundikana, asi isu tiri zvisikwa zvinomuka kubva mukukundikana uye kuenda kumberi. Sarudza, wobva wagadzirisa - ita - zvaunogona. Tinovimba izvi zvinobatsira. Rarama, zvichibva pasainzi.