Kununurwa Kana Kugadzirira?

Kurera vana vakasimba ishe hasha, izvo zvakanaka zvinopihwa kuwirirana kwayo kune hutano hwepfungwa.

Mubhuku ravo Kukura Kusimba , vanyori Tatyana Barankin naNazilla Khanlou vanopa zano, "Vanhu vakashinga vanogona kubata, kana kugadzirisa, kushushikana uye kunetsa mamiriro ehupenyu. Vanodzidza kubva pane zvakaitika mukukwanisa kubata zvine mutsindo mumamiriro ezvinhu mamwe chete, zvichivaita kuti vakwanise kukurira kushushikana nematambudziko munguva inotevera "(Barankin naKhanlou, 2007).

Kune rake divi, Bonnie Benard, M.S.W. , inoti, "Tose tinozvarwa takazvarwa takasimba, tiine hunyanzvi hwekukudziridza hunhu hunowanzo kuwanikwa kune vanopona vakasimba: kugona kwevanhu (kupindura, kushanduka kwetsika, kunzwira tsitsi, kuva nehanya, kugona kutaura, uye kuseka); kugadzirisa matambudziko (kuronga, kutsvaga rubatsiro, kutsoropodza uye kufunga kwekufunga); kuzvitonga (pfungwa yekuzivikanwa, kugona kushanda, kuzviziva, basa-kugona, uye kugadzirisa kuregedza kubva kune zvisina kunaka mameseji nemamiriro); uye pfungwa yechinangwa nekutenda mune ramangwana rakajeka (zvinangwa, zvinangwa zvedzidzo, tariro, kutenda, nekubatana pamweya) ”(Benard, 2021).

Dzimwe nhau dzakanaka dzinogona kuwanikwa mune ichangopfuura Wall Street Journal chinyorwa, "Kunyangwe Covid-19 Dambudziko Rekuputika, Misasa Yezhizha Iri Kuzadza Nekukurumidza," izvo zvinopupurira kuedza kwakabudirira kwemisasa yezhizha yakavhurwa zvakachengeteka mu2020 kana iri kurongedza purani ye2021.

Saka, ndeupi kubatana pakati pemusasa nekusimba? Mune rake Camping Magazini chinyorwa, "Makambi Anobatsira Kuti Vana Vagone Kutsungirira," Michael Ungar, Ph.D., anoti, "Kana zvasvika pakusimba, chengetedza zvakasikwa. Misasa, sezvikoro zvakanaka uye mhuri dzine rudo, inodzivirira vana kumatambudziko nekuvapa zvinokwanisika zvekushushikana uye zvitsigiro zvavanoda kuti vadzidze kurarama nenzira inobudirira uye nenzira dzinochinja ... ”(Ungar, 2012).

Ungar anoenderera mberi nekuverenga zviitiko zvinomwe zvinoda vana.

1. Hukama hutsva, kwete nevezera rako chete, asi nevakuru vakavimbika vasiri vabereki vevana.
2. Chitupa chine simba izvo zvinoita kuti vana vanzwe kuzvivimba pamberi pevamwe, zvinopa vana chimwe chinhu chaicho chavanoda pamusoro pavo
3. Makambi anobatsira vana vanzwe kudzora hupenyu hwavo.
4. Makambi ave nechokwadi chekuti vana vese vari kubatwa zvakanaka.
5. Pamusasa, vana vanowana izvo zvavanoda kuti vakure panyama.
6. Zvichida kupfuura zvese, makambi anopa vana mukana kunzwa sekunge ndezvavo.
7. Misasa inogona kupa vana pfungwa iri nani yetsika dzavo.

Iko kukosha kwekudzidza - uye kudzidzira - kushinga mumusasa wezhizha kwakapfigirwa muhurukuro panguva iyoyo-makore gumi nematanhatu Cameron Grey yakapa kune vadiki vemisasa munzvimbo yake semutungamiri wechidiki kuConnecticut's Camp Hazen. Akaigovana neni paZoom.

Ndinoda kuti imi mese mufunge nezve chimwe chinhu chamunogona, pamwe mutambo kana hunyanzvi hwamakadzidza pamusasa. Zvino, ini ndoda kuti iwe ufunge kuti ungave nehunyanzvi sei iwe pachiitiko chimwe chete icho kana usati wambokundikana uchichiedza. Pamwe zvakashata zvakashata, handiti?

Chii chinonzi kutadza? Zvakanaka, vanhu vanozvitsanangura sekusabudirira kana kusagona zvakakwana. Zvisinei, ndinoona kukundikana sekubudirira. Imwe yemashoko andinofarira ndeyekukundikana kumberi. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kuti ufambire mberi, unofanirwa kunge uine zvipingaidzo.

Ndinoda kujekesa kwamuri mese ikozvino kuti kukundikana kwakanaka uye kunodiwa kuti ufambire mberi muhupenyu. Pataive tese tiri vadiki, vazhinji kana vasiri vese vabereki vedu vakatiyambira kuti tisatombobata chitofu kana chiri. Chii chawakaita zvinotevera? Iwe unogona kunge wakaribata asi, fungidzira chii, ikozvino unoziva kuti usambobata chitofu chinopisa zvakare.

Rega ndikutorere iwe kudzokera kune mutsva mwaka. Ini ndanga ndakagara mupasi rose nhoroondo kirasi ndakamirira kuti bvunzo dzangu dzidzokere. Kufunga kuti ndakaita zvinoshamisa, ndakabvunza mudzidzisi wangu kuti ndeipi mamaki akaipisisa. Akataura 57%. Ndakazvishamisa ndichiti, "Ibenzi ripi rakawana 57%?" Ndakawana 57%. Ndakanga ndiri benzi riya. Muchokwadi, kudzoka uku kwakandiita mudzidzi ari nani zvikuru. Uyu unongova mumwe muenzaniso wekuti kudzoreredza kudiki kwakandisundidzira sei kubudirira.

Iye zvino kwauri, zvinogona kunge zvichibuda muGaga kana kutsvedza paAlpine Tower sezvo wave kuda kusvika kumusoro. Zvisinei nemhando yekutadza, zvisinei nemamiriro ezvinhu, dzidza kubva pane zvakakanganisika, uye pakupedzisira, iwe unozoona zvinangwa zvako.

Pfungwa yangu nemienzaniso iyi yese ndeyekuona kuti imi mese munoziva kuti kukundikana kumberi kunodiwa mukukura kwemunhu.

Ndiri kuzokuudza imwe nyaya. Inenge mwedzi miviri yapfuura, ini ndaitamba kechitatu mumutambo we baseball. Bhatter yakarova bhora rakaomarara repasi kwandiri, zvakatora hop yakaipa ipapo, BOOM. Ndiri kutarisa kumatenga neropa kumeso kwese nemaoko. Ichi chiitiko hachina kunyanya kukundikana asi chimwe chiitiko chekudzidza chakandidzidzisa kugara ndakabata ruoko rwangu rwerudyi kumusoro ndichitora mabhora epasi.

Nekudaro, chiitiko chekudzidza hachifanirwe kunge chiri kurohwa kumeso ne baseball. Zvinogona kuve zvidiki sekutaura zvisizvo panguva isiriyo uye kuva nezvawataura zvinokanganisa hukama hwawaive nahwo nemunhu iyeye.

Newsflash, kukundikana kumberi ndiyo nzira yekuenda. Zvisinei nezvinoitika kana giredhi ripi raunowana kana chero zvipingamupinyi zvauinazvo, gara uchiziva kuti vatungamiriri vanove vatungamiriri vakuru kubva mukundikana nemhosho.

Zvino kwauri, ndine dambudziko, ndinoda kuti mumwe nemumwe wenyu adzidze kubva pakukanganisa vhiki rinotevera uye uyeuke kukundikana kumberi.

Ehe, vana vanodzidzawo kusimba pamba. Lizzy Francis, mune chinyorwa chake "Vana Vakashinga Vanouya Kubva Kune Vabereki Vanoita Izvi Zvinhu zvisere," anoti, "Paunenge uri mudiki, zvese idambudziko. Yako yakakangwa chizi ine iyo yakagwamba pamusoro? Zvinotyisa. Haikwanise kuunganidza iyo Lego yakagadzirirwa? Zvinogona kutsika kumusoro uye pasi. Iwe haugone kuchinja izvi. Izvo iwe zvaunogona kuita, zvakadaro, sunga mwana wako nehunyanzvi hunovadzidzisa maitiro ekudzoreredza kubva kumatambudziko avo ezuva nezuva kuti, gare gare muhupenyu, kana matanda akwirira, vazive zvekuita "(Francis, 2018) . Sekureva kwaFrancis, vabereki vevana vakashinga vanoita zvinhu zvisere zvinotevera. Ivo:

1. Regai vana vatambure
2. Rega vana vavo vaone kurambwa
3. Usaregerera pfungwa yemunhu akabatwa
4. Ita zvinopfuura kungovaudza kuti "bhururuka" kana kunetsana kuchiitika
5. Batsira vana vavo kudzidza kunyora manzwiro avo uye nemanzwiro
6. Ipa vana vavo maturusi ekuzvinyaradza
7. Bvuma zvavanokanganisa. Uye zvino vanozvigadzirisa
8. Gara uchibatanidza kuzvikoshesa kwemwana wavo padanho rekuyedza

Zvichida hazvishamise, munguva ino yedenda, kushinga kwakatora pfumo. Dhata nyowani kubva kuCentre for Adolescent Research uye Dzidzo (CARE) uye Yese Brain inoratidza kuti vadzidzi vechikoro chesekondari uye vekoreji vanopasa mushe pazasi pe50th percentile pane kuzvidzora uye, zvakanyanya, kutsiga.

Izvi zvinoita kuti mabasa emisasa yezhizha nevabereki anyanye kutsoropodza ... uye nekukurumidza.

Pamwe chete, hatifanirwe kununura vana vedu asi kuti tivabatsire kuvagadzirira nyika iripamberi, nematambudziko ayo ese uye kusagadzikana.

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Ungar, M. (2012). Misasa inobatsira kuti vana vagare vakashinga. Camping Magazini. Gunyana / Gumiguru 2012. https://www.acacamps.org/resource-library/camping-magazine/camps-help-make-children-resilient (18 Ndira 2021).