Kupindazve: Chii Chaunofanira Kuita Kana Hupenyu Hwekare Husingachakwani?

Mukufamba kwemuchadenga, kupinda zvekare kunoonekwa sechikamu chakaomesesa chekubhururuka. Chitundumuseremusere chinowana mukana mumwe chete wekurova mhepo yepanyika pakona chaipo. Speed ​​ndiyo kiyi zvakare: Kana chinhu chikapindazve nekukurumidza, chinopisa senge chimondo. Satellites dzimwe nguva inopindazve mumhepo uye inopunzika pamusoro.

Kune varwi, vatambi, vatambi vepamusoro, uye vamwe nyanzvi vanosangana nezvakanyanya kuitika sechikamu chebasa ravo, kugona kupindazve kwakakosha mukuita kwavo, uye vanodzidza nekukurumidza kugadzirisa shanduko pasina kupunzika. Kune vamwe vedu, dambudziko senge COVID-19 denda rinoramba riri risinganzwisisike ratisina kugadzirira, nekuwana nzira yedu yekudzokera muhupenyu hwedu mushure mekunge yaunza matambudziko akasarudzika, zvakare.

Nepo denda iri richiri kutitenderedza uye richizopfuurira kwechinguva, huwandu huri kuwedzera hwenyika dzakabvisa zvirambidzo, nezvitoro, mahofisi, uye hupenyu hweveruzhinji zvishoma nezvishoma kuvhurwa. Sezvo isu tave kupinda-zvakare munzvimbo dzebasa uye hukama, kusanganisira iwo atisina kumbobvira tasiya, ndeipi yekupinda-nekumhanyisa kumhanya uye kona kwakarurama?

Iko kushamisika kwechimbichimbi kwe "zvakajairika" kunogona kuve kunovhiringidza, uye neese akawedzera kusangana kwehukama kujekesa kwekusurukirwa kunova kusanzwisisika. Mushure mezvese izvi zvepedyo zvekusangana nerufu uye nevamwe vasingazivikanwe vavarari, tinozununguswa, asi hatichamutsiridzike. Yese mibvunzo yakakosha inoramba isina kupindurwa, kunyangwe ivo vakaerekana vasina kuvhurika, vashoma pakunaka, kupfuura zvavakaonekwa masvondo mashoma apfuura. Rumwe ruoko irworwo, dambudziko iri raive rakakura "kuongorora maitiro" uye isu takawana yakawandisa maonero. Kune rimwe divi, isu takapedza ruzhinji rwematambudziko takamanikidzwa kugamuchira kukosha kutsva. Hupenyu hwakanyanya hunogoneka hwaive nekukwezva, asi vazhinji vedu tinofanirwa kubvuma kuti kurota kwekurarama zvidiki kwakazove kwakakura kwatiri. Uye zvino isu tinotangazve kubuda, kwenguva pfupi kukunda kurwara nekuzviparadzanisa nevamwe, asi zvakadaro tichinzwa takundwa. Kupa fungidziro dzekare kwanga kusiri iko kunorwadza, asi kusiya tariro itsva nekukasira-zvinorwadza.

Muchokwadi, panogona kuve nefungu rechipiri rekuchema kana tikaziva kuti hatisi kuzodzokera kuupenyu, asi rufu. Izvo "kudzoka pane zvakajairwa" zvinogona kureva chokwadi chinodzikamisa mweya chehupenyu hwedu husingafadzi, husina mufaro hwaive hwakatishungurudza mukutambura kunononoka kare denda risati ratombosvika. Kuchema kukuru, kwevamwe kwekuchema kana kuchema kunodzokororwa kwemisangano inotyisa yeMuvhuro mangwanani - apo patinodzokera kubasa, tinogona kuwana nguva yakaoma yekufunga kuti chii chakanyanya.

Nekudaro, pane here chero tsika dzinogona kutibatsira kuyambuka iyi liminal nzvimbo pakati pekare nezvitsva zvakajairwa, yedu yekare uye nyowani pachedu? Izvo zvinoita kuti tifunge kuti neimwe nzira dambudziko iri "rakange rakakodzera"?

Chekutanga pane zvese, tinogona kuwana nhungamiro inobatsira mukubatanidzwazve kwevasungwa. Asati aburitswa, chimwe chinhu chakakosha kuita ndeche kuverenga : tora zvinhu zvako, zvaunonzwa zviwanikwa, kusimba kwehukama, pamwe nehunyanzvi hwako hwekare uye hutsva, kuti uzive zvaunogona kubata, uye nemamiriro api aungade kudzivirira kana uchinge wapinda zvakare.

Chepiri, bvuma kuti kukiyiwa kunogona kunge kuri chiitiko chinotyisa uye kuti iwe unogona kunge uchirwara nepashure pekushungurudzika kushungurudzika, kunetseka kunetseka kunoenderera pasina chikonzero chiri pachena. Taura iwo manzwiro uye uakurukure navo vaunoshanda navo kana shamwari. Njodzi dzinogona dzimwe nguva kugonesa "post-traumatic kukura," zvichizoguma nekukwirira kwakakwira kwehunhu hunhu, hwakafanana netsika yechiJapan yeKintsugi, kugadzirisa kwevhu rakaputswa. Panzvimbo pekuvanza makatsemuka, inoasimbisa, ichiita kuti chinhu chive chakazara zvakare panguva imwechete ichiva neayo "nhoroondo yakaputsika," seizvo nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Scott Barry Kaufman anozviisa zvakanaka kwazvo muchinyorwa chake pamusoro pe "Kuwana Chinangwa uye Kugadzira Mukutambudzika." Kaufman akataura kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti 61 muzana yevanhurume uye makumi mashanu neshanu muzana evakadzi muUnited States vanotaura chiitiko chimwe chinotyisa muhupenyu hwavo, uye anoratidza kuti kugona kwevanhu kutsungirira kwakakosha. Kaufman anonongedzera kuti imwe yemakiyi ekukura mushure mekutambudzika kugona kunyatsoongorora mifungo, manzwiro uye manzwiro anotya pane kuvadzivisa kana "kuzvidzora." Vaya vane yakaderera nhanho yezvinonzi "kusangana nekuziva" vanotaura mazinga epamusoro ekukura uye zvinoreva hupenyu.

Chetatu, ipa mumwe munhu chipo . Nekuchigamuchira, mumwe munhu anotsigira hunhu hwako uye nekukubatsira kuti uzviise patsva. Kupa chipo inzira inoshanda yekudzoreredza hukama usingatarisiri chero chinhu kudzoka asi kugamuchirwa. Iyo zvakare inzira yakanaka yekuchengetedza mutsa uye kufunga izvo vazhinji vedu takasangana nazvo panguva yekuvhara. Hazvishamise kuti kuratidzira senge Lee Mingwei's "Gifts uye Rituals" uye 1: 1 Concert nhevedzano, umo mumwe muimbi akaitira vateereri veimwe panguva, vakafarira mukurumbira wakanyanya panguva yedambudziko. Dzose dzaive zvipo: zvehukama hwepedyo nekutarisirwa, zviviri zvezvinhu zvakakosha kwazvo zvevanhu.

Pakupedzisira, kuveza uye chengetedza nzvimbo yekurangarira , Yekuchengeta ndangariro kubva padambudziko uye kunonoka nemanzwiro akasanganiswa iwe auchiri kusangana nawo. Izvi zvinogona kuve kufungisisa kwemazuva ese kana kuita kwekunyora. Chero chiitiko chenguva dzose, kunyangwe chiri chidiki sei, chinobatsira. Ziva zvinhu zvawakadzidza panguva yedambudziko zvaunoda kuendesa kumberi, kuzvinyora pasi, uye chaiko chipo-kuzviputira sezviyeuchidzo. Zvichengete munzvimbo yakachengetedzeka, uye kana nguva yacho yakwana rimwe zuva, zvivhure uye ushamisike nekwaniso yako yekungopona padambudziko riripo asi nekugona kuzvimisazve - uye kupinda zvakare kumberi.