Wired yehutano hwakakwana

"Zvinofanirwa kunge zvakavanzika, asi ini ndichakuudza zvakadaro." Isu vanachiremba hapana chatinoita. Tinongobatsira nekukurudzira chiremba ari mukati. ” - Albert Schweitzer, MD

Dzimwe nguva ndinofunga isu tashanduka kuita "kunze uko" nzanga. Mufaro wedu une chekuita nechimwe chinhu (kana mumwe munhu) "kunze uko." Basa redu kana kubudirira kwebhizimisi kunoenderana nemamiriro emusika "kunze uko." Manzwiro atinoita pamoyo zvinoenderana nemamiriro ekunze, traffic, kana chii chinogara mubhokisi redu rekunyora. Pfungwa yedu yekuzviongorora inoenderana nekuti vangani vanosimudzira, mazuva kana "zvavanofarira" zvatinowana.

Uye hutano hwedu? Vazhinji vedu takazotenda kuti zvakavakirwa pahutachiona mumhepo, utachiona pabhokisi remukova, chepfu munharaunda, kana magene atakatambidzwa nevabereki vedu. Uye nekuti zvinhu zvinokanganisa hutano hwedu "zviri kunze uko," tinofungidzira kuti mhinduro dzenyaya dzehutano dziri kunze uko zvakare. Tinokwevera miviri yedu kuhofisi yechiremba sekuendesa mota yedu kunamakanika. Tinotarisira kuti iye "agadzirise" uye agadzirise nekukurumidza nemishonga yavo uye nzira dzekuvhiya.

Ndine ruremekedzo rukuru kune vanachiremba uye nebasa ravo. Asi sekutaura kwakaita Deepak Chopra:

"Mishonga yemazuva ano, nekufambira mberi kwayo kwese, inoziva isingasviki gumi muzana yezvinozivikanwa nemuviri wako."

Ndakafunda uye ndikadzidzisa Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) neHuna kwemakore mazhinji ikozvino. Kunyangwe zvakasiyana mukuita kwavo, zvese zviri zviviri zvitendero zvinotenda kuti pfungwa dzedu dzisingazive (dzinomhanyisa muviri nezvose zvadzinoita) dzinobata mapurani maviri: mumwe wemuviri wedu uine hutano hwakakwana uye mumwe wemuviri wedu muchimiro chazvino.

Pfungwa dzedu dzisingazivi dzinoziva chaizvo zvatinoda kuti tive noutano.

Saka sei isu tisiri?

Pamwe, ndinofunga imhaka yekuti tinofuratira miviri yedu 'chishuwo chemuviri uye zviito zvedu hazvitsigire kugona kwayo kwekuzvirapa uye kuchengetedza hutano hwepanyama.

Kusvika padanho rakakura kwazvo, hutano hwedu hwepanyama huri kwatiri, kwete masimba ekunze.

Ini ndichazvibvuma: Ndiri pane hutano hwepanyama kukanda nguva pfupi yapfuura - "nguva pfupi yadarika" kuve makore manomwe apfuura kana zvakadaro. Izvi zvisati zvaitika, ndaive ndakafuta zvakanyanya - zvakanaka, pachokwadi ini ndaikodzera semunhu akafutunuka mukuremerwa maererano nachiremba wangu. Kunyangwe ndaive ndakagwinya uye mutambi mumakore angu ekuchikoro, ndakanga ndazvibvumira kuenda kubva ipapo.Ini ndaidya chero chandaida (kunyangwe ndichiziva kuti chakange chakashata kwandiri). Ini handina kuteerera muviri wangu pawakandiudza kuti ndakaguta kana kuti avo vasosi havana kubvumirana nedumbu rangu. Ndakadzivirira kurovedza muviri nekuti ndaizvifunga nezvehukuru hwangu uye ndakaora moyo kuti ndakanga ndisina kusimba kana kushanduka sezvandaimboita.

Kare kumashure (sezvazvino) Ini ndakadzidzisa vanhu nzira yekuwana simba muhupenyu hwavo kuburikidza neNeuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) neHuna. Ndakazvitutumadza ndichi "famba hurukuro yangu," ndichiita muhupenyu hwangu izvo zvandaidzidzisa vamwe. Asi kunyangwe hazvo ndaibvisa hana dzakashata uye ndichiganhurira zvitendero uye ndikashandisa ho'o'pono pono (kuregerera) mune mamwe matunhu ehupenyu hwangu, ndakadzivisa kuita chero chinhu nezvenharaunda yehutano hwangu.

Oo, ndakaedza mishoma kuti ndive noutano hwakanaka — ndakaedza kudya kwakati, ndakasaina kwenguva pfupi nzvimbo yekurovedza muviri - asi hapana imwe yakagara kwenguva refu. Hutano hwangu hwainge hwakaipa zvekuti mushure mekudzidziswa kwakasimba kwese kwandaidzidzisa, muviri wangu waizodonha kusvika padanho rekuda mishonga inorwisa mabhakitiriya kuti ndidzokere patsoka dzangu.

Munzvimbo yehutano hwangu hwepanyama, zviito zvangu zvaive pachena kuzvikuvadza. Uye ini ndakavimba nechimwe chinhu "kunze uko" kugadzirisa iko kukuvara.

Chikamu chekumuka kwangu (iyo kiredhiti inoenda kumukadzi wangu) yaive yekuti hutano hwangu hwakanga husingaenderane nezvandinodzidzisa. Kuti tiwane simba rakazara, tinofanirwa kuve neutano munzvimbo dzese ina: pfungwa, mweya, pamweya uye muviri. Uye kunyangwe isu tichigona kutsvaga rutsigiro kuti tigare takagwinya mune yega yeaya nzvimbo, zvinofanirwa kuve "kuita na" kwete "kuita ku" kuita. Mune mamwe mazwi, zviri kwatiri, kwete rimwe simba rekunze, kugadzira hutano hwedu hungave hwepfungwa, hwepamoyo, hwemweya kana hwepanyama.

Pandakazoita sarudzo yekuti ndive neutano, ndakaona kuti ndaifanira kutora masimba angu ese ari mukati kushanda kuhutano hwangu. Ini ndinobvumirana naDeepak Chopra uyo anoti, "Maitiro aunofunga, maitiro aunoita, maitiro aunodya, anogona kukanganisa hupenyu hwako makore makumi matatu kusvika makumi mashanu."

Neraki, ndaive nemidziyo yakawanda yandaida. Ini ndaishandisa Huna kundibatsira kuyerera simba rangu remweya kuenda kuhutano. Ini ndaishandisa iyo Mental Emotional Release® (MER®) maitiro ekunyunyisa manzwiro asina kunaka uye kudzikamisa zvitendero pamusoro pomuviri wangu, uye ndakashandisa nzira dzakasiyana siyana dzeNLP kusimudzira tsika dzinokuvadza uye mapatani kuita ane hutano.

Ipapo ndakaita tsvakiridzo yakawanda uye pakupedzisira ndakawana chinoshamisa chirongwa chemuviri uye murairidzi kuti anditungamire mune yangu yekurovedza muviri uye kudya kunovaka muviri. Zvakaguma nei? Ini handisati ndangoburitsa makumi matanhatu nemashanu mapaundi asi ini ndiri muchimiro chiri nani pane zvandakamboita! Ini zvino ndinoisa chirongwa chekusimba mumabasa angu nevamwe.

Sei ndichikuudza zvese izvi? Nekuda kwekugoneswa zvizere, zvakakosha kuti ese mana masilinda apfure: pfungwa, manzwiro, zvemweya uye panyama. Uye isu tese tine simba rekumutsa "chiremba ari mukati," chikamu chedu icho chakabata purani yehutano hwedu hwakakwana.

Ini ndinokusiya uine chirevo ichi kubva kuna Abraham Maslow:

"Uchapupu hwese hwatinahwo hunoratidza kuti zvine musoro kufunga mumwana wese, uye muchidimbu mucheche wese, kuti pane chido chekuita nezvehutano, shungu dzekukura, kana kuita kuti zviitike."

Kukupa kwako simba!

Mahalo -

Dr. Mat.

Matthew B. James, MA, Ph.D., ndiye Mutungamiri weiyo Empowerment Partnerhip. Munyori wemabhuku akati wandei, Dr. Matt akadzidzisa zviuru zvevadzidzi kuti vape simba rose vachishandisa Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Huna, Mental Emotional Release® therapy, uye Empowerment Fit. Edza yedu yemahara e-kosi pane nlp pano: http://www.nlp.com/free-ecourse/