Apo Baba Vangu Vakava Vakwegura Skirt-Chaser

Mumakore mashanu apfuura ehupenyu hwababa vangu, vakachinja nenzira yainetsa kwazvo yandaisanzwisisa. Ini ndiri ndega mwana, saka baba vangu vakatendeukira kwandiri, nguva pfupi mushure mekufa kwamai vangu, kuti ndibatsirwe mukutsvaga muchengeti wemba - neropafadzo. Pamakore makumi masere nemasere aive asina kugadzirira kugara ega, asi mhinduro yake yaive yekubhadhara mumwe munhu kuti ape hushamwari pamwe pabonde. Zano rake raive risina hunhu zvachose kuna baba vanofunga, vane zviga zvandaigaro gara ndichivada nekuvayemura, avo vaive, sekuziva kwangu, vanga vakaroora vachifara uye vakatendeka kuna amai vangu kwemakore makumi matanhatu. Munhu akadaro, mukadzi, angangoerekana aona bonde sechiitiko chero vakadzi vaanobatira vanofanirwa kutarisirwa kugovera?

Tsananguro inobatsira, kuchembera uku kwainge kwamuita kuti anonoke, aisanzwa zvakanaka.

Kuzvitaura hakuna kujeka. Pandakayeuchidza baba vangu kuti zano ravo raive, pakati pezvimwe zvinhu, zvisiri pamutemo, vakandipomera mhosva yekuva munhu akangwara. "Wanga uri kupi? Hauna kumbonzwa nezve shanduko yebonde here? Ko zvakadii geishas? Dzimwe tsika dzine hurongwa. ” Sangano rake risinganzwisisike parutivi, munzira dzese aizviratidza senge; zvido zvake zvaisvika kure, nharo dzake dzezvematongerwo enyika dzakasimba. Aida kurarama chaizvo sezvaakange ave — chando muMexico, achifarira zviitiko uye hupenyu hwehukama hwekirabhu yake yenyika yeWestchester - asi akange asingafarire kufambidzana neimwe yechirikadzi dzakanaka shamwari dzake dzaimukurudzira.

Mamiriro acho akaita mutorwa. Pandakaronga kuti tisangane nevakapindura kushambadziro kwandakamhanya, iye akabata mabvunzurudzo sechirevo chekufambidzana. Uye akabva aenda kuseri kwemusana wangu kunotsvaga tambo yezvikanganiso zvekunyepedzera avo vakatamira mukati kuti vangotsika-tsika mushure memwedzi yakati wandei mukutyisidzira kana nekutyisidzira, uye mune imwe nyaya yakabviswa nevashandi 911 kuenda kuchipatara chepfungwa. Zvisinei nekufunga kusanzwisisika kana kwehungwaru, baba vangu vakafadzwa nezvavakawana uye vakaedza nepese pavaigona napo kuvatsvaira kubva patsoka dzavo. Kuti baba vangu vane hungwaru vagutsikane nevakadzi vanoshaya hunhu hwemweya wangu wakasimba, amai vane hunyanzvi izvozvi zvinoita sekunge kwandiri zvakatonyanya kushamisa kupfuura hurongwa hwavo hwepabonde.

Izvo zvaiitika zvaifanira kuve zviri pachena, asi zvaisave kwandiri. Kana iyo yaive chero yeimwe shamwari dzandakabvunza, asi vazhinji vaive nenyaya dzakafanana nezvevabereki vavo: amai vane mutauro wakaomarara, baba vaida kumisa imba nehure, baba vakapasa muroora wavo -mutemo, amai vakabvisa patafura yekudya kwemanheru. Wese munhu akabvisa hunhu, kunyangwe zvichishungurudza, sekufungisisa nezvebonde zvinowanzoitika kune vanhu vakuru.

Kunge shamwari dzangu, ndakarerutsa. Pamwe baba vangu vaka zununguswa nekufa kwamai vangu uye vakashaiwa simba rehumwe hukama hwakanonoka muhupenyu. Zvichida aive nostalgic kune hujaya hwake uye aida kutora mukana weakaerekana anonoka-hupenyu bachelor bachelor. Vakomana vachave vakomana, shure kwezvose. Kunyanya, ndakaedza kusafunga kuti chikamu chisina hunhu, chaimbove chakavanzika chababa vangu chiri kufumurwa. Hatidi kufunga nezve hupenyu hwevabereki vedu hwepabonde (kunyangwe isu tisingazovapo pasina izvozvo), uye saka handina.

Mhinduro chaiyo yakaratidza kuve yanga ichinditarisa kumeso nguva yese.

Mushure mekufa kwake, zvakadaro, ndakatsvaga mhinduro. Google yakapa zvinongedzo kune kupindwa muropa kwepabonde uye hyper-bonde kusagadzikana mumisha inochengeterwa vakwegura, uko varwere vane dementia vanogona kuita bonhora pachena kana kuzvimanikidza kune vamwe varwere, kuchema kuri kure nezviito zvababa vangu. Kusundira mberi nekuenderera mberi, ini ndakazopedzisira ndasvika kuzviratidzo zvemberi lobe dementia: kurwisa bonde, kurasikirwa kwekutonga, uye kuziva kwehunhu hwakakodzera. Bhingo. Kuongororwa kwakanyatso kukwana uye nekukurumidza kwakatsanangura mukadzi anoshandisa ini wandanga ndichinetseka naye. Baba vangu vanga vachirwara nedambudziko rakafanana rehuropi sevanhu vari mu-patient memory units asi padiki padiki.

Sei ndakanga ndisina kuona zviri pachena?

Izvo chokwadi nezve kunonoka-kwehupenyu huropi kudzikira uko kunozivikanwa ruzivo mune yekuora mwoyo nyika hazvina kuita nzira yavo kune isu vamwe. Pfungwa dzedu hadziendi kuuropi atrophy kana tichiona vabereki vedu vakwegura vachiita zvisingaite pabonde. Uye zvakadaro, pachangotanga chokwadi kundirova, zvaiita senge zviri pachena. Ndingadai ndisina kunge ndazviona sei? Nekuti iyo taboo yainditadzisa kutarisa padhuze. Uye nekuti kwezviuru zvemakore, isu takagadzira iyo syndrome neimwe nzira.

Mushure mezvose, chiitiko ichi chakange chiripo kubvira vanhu pavakararama kwenguva yakareba zvakakwana kuti vazviwane, uye nzira yekuzviona yakagadziriswa apo pasina munhu aiziva nezvekushanda kwehuropi. Mufungo we "akakwegura ane tsvina" anga aripo kanenge kubvira nevaRoma. Iyo inowanzo fanika yekunyepedzera, lecherous sekuru (kana mbuya) yakazara kwazvo zvekuti tinoigamuchira sechinhu chakajairika chekweguru.

Asi, kutaura zvazviri, vakwegura havachina hanya nezvebonde kupfuura isu vamwe, vane pfungwa dzepabonde zuva rese (ndizvo zvinoita kuti rudzi rwevanhu rwurambe rwuri, shure kwezvose). Musiyano chete ndewekuti isu tinochengeta kutonga uye kuzviziva isu kuti tisaite pane idzi pfungwa. Iyo atrophy yemaseru ehuropi yakafanana neakasiyana shanduko sekushomeka kwemukati nzeve mauroni iyo inokonzera kurasikirwa kwekunzwa-uye yakafanana haina hukama nehunhu.

Zvinogona kutaridzika kunge shanduko diki kuti uone kuti hunhu husina kukodzera pabonde kune vakwegura haisi nyaya yepfungwa asi yetsinga. Uye zvakadaro shanduko iyi ndiyo zvese zvinotora kubvisa kushushikana kwemamirioni edu anoona izvo zvinoita sekuderera kunotyisa uye kunonyadzisa mumubereki akwegura kana murume kana mukadzi. Nenguva isipi, munhu watinoda uye watinoyemura anodzoserwa kwatiri.