Chii Chinoita Kuti Munhu Anake Mubhedha?

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"Hazvina mhosva kuti varume vanoita sei pamubhedha, hazviite kuti ndishamwaridzane." —Chirikadzi

“Murume akarara pamubhedha haatomboguma pamberi pangu. Chero bedzi asingasvike pamugumo, anozvipira nesimba pabonde. Mushure mekubuda urume, ndinogara ndichifunga kuti haanyanye kuda. ” —Mukadzi akaroorwa

Varume vazhinji vanofarira kunzwa kuti ivo "vakanaka pamubhedha." Asi zvakadaro chimwe chinhu chakanaka, kutaura zvazviri, chingave chakaipa?

Ruzivo-rwakavakirwa Technique uye Emotion-based Kushamwaridzana

“Vakadzi vanogona kunge vachigona kunyepedzera maronda. Asi varume vanogona kunyepera hukama hwese. ” —Sharon Dombo

Kuva wakanaka pamubhedha kunoda maviri epakati hunhu: Ruzivo-rwakavakirwa Technique uye Emotion-based Kushamwaridzana.

Ruzivo-rwakavakirwa Technique inoreva kune epanyama zvinhu zvakaita sekuti riini, sei, uye kupi kwekubata mumwe wako, pamwe nepfungwa zvinhu, senge nguva, sei, uye zvekutaura kune mumwe wako. Unyanzvi hwakanaka hwunogonesa varume kumirira neijaculation yavo kusvikira mukadzi aguma, kana kutombozvibata kwenguva yakareba, zvichidaro zvichigonesa kupfuurira kupinda kwenguva yakareba semaawa mazhinji.

Emotion-based Kushamwaridzana kwakanyanya kuomarara uye kunosanganisira kuswedera padhuze, kwakabatana nemanzwiro ehukama hwenyu. Kusava nehukama hwepedyo kunowanzo kuve kwakabatana neyakaipa bonde. Semukadzi akaroorwa akati: “Nezuro manheru ndakarara nemurume wangu asi haana kundibata-akangondipinda. Ndakanga ndakasuruvara kwazvo, ndingadai ndakachema. ” Zvepabonde pabonde hazvingorevi kupinda chete; inosanganisirawo mafungiro akanaka, epedyo pakati pevakaroorana.

Ruzivo rwakavakirwa paTekiniki rinoreva maitiro ehunhu kana hunhu, hunoshandiswa uye husina kugadziridzwa kune wese waunofambidzana naye, nepo kudanana kuchiratidza iko kudanana - chisungo chakasiyana pakati pevanodanana. Iyo hunyanzvi inogona kudzidziswa uye kuvandudzwa kuburikidza nehupenyu hwako uye kudzidza. Nekudaro, kushamwaridzana hachisi chinhu chinodzidziswa, asi kuvandudzwa kuburikidza nehukama hwepedyo.

Zvakaoma kunyepera hunyanzvi - iwe unogona kuzviziva kana kuti kwete - asi zviri nyore kuzviwana kuburikidza nekudzokorora kudzidzira uye kudzidza. Izvo zviri nyore kunyepera hukama hwepedyo pakutanga kwehukama, asi zvakaoma kuzviita kwenguva yakareba. Vakadzi vane hunyanzvi vanoziva mafungiro enhema nekukurumidza, kunyangwe kana hunyanzvi hwehunyanzvi huchiita kuti kuzivikanwa kuome.

Kutsungirira Kushamwaridzana

"Kurara kwangu kukuru ndekwekuti mudiwa wangu paakati: 'iwe uri wangu, neni ndiri wako'" —Mukadzi akaroorwa.

“Mudiwa wangu akachekwa nepfungwa nguva yaakabuda hurume. Iko kumhanya kwaakandisiira pamoyo nepanyama zvaishamisa. Iye akatosiya mubhedha kuti anwe chinhu uye haana kudzokera kumubhedha. ” —Murambana

Zvinhu zviviri zvinokonzeresa hunhu hwepabonde hazvipokanidze: Munhu anogona kuve nehunyanzvi hwakanaka uyezve nekumisidzana kudanana. Zvakangodaro, mashandiro akanaka anowanzo kanganisa kuvakwa kwehukama hwepedyo.

Pane zvikonzero zvinoverengeka zveizvi. Chekutanga, varume vanozviona sevanyanzvi vezvepabonde vanopa huremu hwakawanda kune avo maitiro pamubhedha, nokudaro vachivandudza kuzvifananidza kwavo. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vanogona kuregeredza kudanana. Kumwe kukonana kunomuka panotanga kuitika hunhu: vamwe vanofarira kusangana kwenguva pfupi pabonde uye nekudaro, vanoshaya kurudziro inodiwa yekudyara mukusimbisa kudanana (kunyanya nekuti hunyanzvi hwavo huri kudiwa zvakanyanya). Izvo zvinogona zvakare kuve nyaya yekuti vanhu ava vanove nyanzvi mune zvekuita bonde chaizvo nekuti vanotya kushamwaridzana, uye nekudaro vanotsvaga akawanda epfupi-kwenguva kubatana.

Ukama hwepedyo hunonzwisisa pakati pebonde rerudo nemuchina wepabonde kuti zvakanyanyisa. Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti nguva yekudyara nguva isati yasvika, panguva, uye mushure mekusangana pabonde inowedzera kudanana uye kudanana. Iko zvirokwazvo kune kuwirirana pakati pehukama hwehukama uye zvenguva zvinhu, sekureba kwenguva yekudanana, nguva yakaiswa mukusangana pabonde, uye nguva yezviitiko zvepedyo mushure mekusangana.

Kuisa mari yakawanda nguva zvinowanzo pesana nehunhu uye hunyanzvi hunhu hwehunyanzvi hwepabonde. Unyanzvi hunovimbisa kugutsikana nekukasira; uyezve, kushamwaridzana kunoona kana iwe uchida kuvaona mangwanani anotevera.

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