Rudzii Rwerudo Rwakakukodzera?

Zvemukati

• Kufungisisa nezverudo
• Kutora

Rudo runokudzwa murwiyo, uzivi, uye nevanhu vazhinji seyakadzika yehupenyu hwakatungamirwa. Kune rimwe divi, rudo runoreva chiyero chekusafunga: kuva nehanya zvakanyanya pamusoro pemunhu pane kuongorora zvine hungwaru zvinogona kuita, semuenzaniso, kukwidziridza zvinhu zvavo vachideredza zvikwereti zvavo.

Tinofanira kukudza kusafunga kwakadaro here? Mushure mezvose, vanhu vazhinji kwazvo vanowira murudo chete kuti vaputse uye voshayikirwa, kazhinji kwenguva yakareba. Ndizvo Tennyson here, kuti "zvirinani kuve wakada uye kurasikirwa pane kusatomboda zvachose?"

Asi mavhareji haaverenge pano. Chii chaunofunga kuti chakakodzera iwe ? Chii chinofanira kuve basa rerudo yako hupenyu?

Kufungisisa nezverudo

Chii yako kugona kuda?

Sezvakaita nehunhu hwakawanda hwevanhu, vanhu vanogona kusiana mukudzika kwavanogona kuda. Ndakaona vanhu vanogara vachiisa mudiwa wavo pamusoro pavo, vachitoda kupa itsvo. Kune rimwe divi rakanyanyisa, rudo rwevamwe vanhu rwakaganhurirwa zvakanyanya pakuva shamwari yekuita.

Mubvunzo ndewokuti: Kunyangwe iwe waida kuchinja, uri nyore sei kuumbika? Zvingangovawo nyaya yekutsvaga mumwe munhu waungade zvakadzama? Kana pamwe shanduko yemafungiro yaizobatsira. Kana iwe unofanirwa kutanga watanga kupodza kumwe kushungurudzika kwakapfuura? Saka, padanho ripi rerudo iwe raunofunga raungave huchenjeri kwauri kuti ushuve?

Miganhu.

Tinofanira here kuita kuti mudiwa wedu Atange Kuva Mumwe? Ndeipi nhanho yekuzvipira yatinofanira kuve nayo: kubva pakuteerera kana iwe usingafarire kudaro, kuva nerupo mukupindura kukanganisa kwemumwe wako, kupa zvipo zvataurwa pamusoro apa?

Ko rudo runononoka kwauri here?

Magetsi akareba achichema rudo rwepfupi hafu-hupenyu. Pasina pasi Shakespeare akanyora, "Huya unditsvode, akanaka uye makumi maviri. Zvinhu zvevechidiki hazvirambe. "Edna St. Vincent Millay akabvumirana nazvo:" Ini ndinoshuvira kuti dai rudo rwakagara kwenguva refu uye mhiko dzakange dzisingatyire zvakadaro. " Asina kukwirira, munyori wenziyo Jimmy Lucas akanyora, "Ndinoda Mukadzi Wangu Asi Ah Iwe Mwana."

Vamwe vakaroorana vanoita kunge vasiri kungochengetedza chete asi kudzamisa rudo mukati mehupenyu hwavo hwese. Maiwe, vamwe vanhu havadaro. Nekuti iwe , unonzwa here kuti rudo rwekunyepedzera rwuchikosha mukuzvarwa uko kungave kwakawedzeredzwa neyeuko dzehukama hwako hwekare? Kana zvirizvo, zvine hungwaru kutarisa kugamuchirwa nekungonakidzwa nenguva dzakanaka patinogona, sekukoshesa kwatinoita runako ruva zvakanyanya nekuti kukwana kwaro kunopera.

Kana iwe unonzwa kuti une bara pahupenyu hwerudo nekushandisa, semuenzaniso, hunyanzvi hwekutaurirana, husiku hwemasikati, uye kuenzanisa kupa nekutora?

Ukama asymmetries.

Hukama hwese hune asymmetries, kubva pabonde kusvika pamari, hunhu hwekushanda kune hunhu hwemunhu. Chinyorwa chazvino chakatsanangura nzira ina dzekugadzirisa asymmetries uye yekutevera yakapihwa rairo pamhando nhanhatu dzeasymmetry.

Dzimwe mhando dzerudo.

Shanda. Kahlil Gibran akanyora, "Basa ndirwo rudo rwunoonekwa." Hatifanire kuve nenzvimbo mumoyo medu, zvirokwazvo mukuremekedza kwedu, kune iye munhu anoshanda maawa marefu kuti ape nzvimbo yakanaka neimba kunyangwe zvavo kubatanidzwa kwavo mudzimba kune yakawanda yenguva yenguva kupfuura huwandu hwenguva?

Imbwa. Vamwe vanhu vanozvidza vanoda imbwa sevasingakwanise kutadza kuchengetedza rudo nevanhu. Asi rudo rwembwa nerevanhu harwunyorerane, uye mamwe mabhenefiti ekuva nembwa anonetsa kutevedzera nemunhu: kukumbira pane zvinodiwa, kurovedzwa kurovedza muviri, uye kazhinji zvinotaurwa zvisingaite.

Hurumende. George Orwell akatsanangura mugari ya1984’s nyika : "Aida Big Brother." Vamwe vanhu vanokudza hurumende hombe, vachifunga kuti mitero uye zvirambidzo parusununguko zvakakosheswa, kana zvisiri zvekuzvibatsira, kune veruzhinji vasina. Vamwe vanhu havadi hurumende zvakanyanya.

Hupenyu. Benjamin Franklin akanyora, "Unoda here hupenyu hupenyu? Ipapo usatambisa nguva. Nekuti ndizvo zvinhu zvakagadzirwa nehupenyu. " Kune vanhu vanoda hupenyu, iro rinogona kunge riri rudo rukuru pane ese.

Kutora

Sezvo nezvakawanda zvinhu, kana zvasvika pakuda, saizi imwe haina kukodzera zvese. Mukuona kwemazano aya, iwe unoda kunyora pasi zvaunofunga pamusoro penzira yaunoronga, muhupenyu hwako, kuratidza rudo?

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