Iyo Kubatana Pakati peNarcissistic Vanamai uye CPTSD
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Kana isu tichifunga nezve post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) isu tinowanzo taura kune mamiriro anova mhinduro kune chimwe chiitiko uye chinozivikanwa nezviratidzo zvakaita sekukasira kusvika padambudziko rekutanga. Isu tinowanzo kunzwa nezvePTSD mune mamiriro evarwi vehondo vakasangana nekushungurudzika kwakanangana nehondo; tinogona zvakare kuzvibatanidza nevanhu vakaona zvinotyisa, senge tsaona, kana vakabatwa chibharo.
Muna 1988, Judith Herman, purofesa weClinical Psychology paHarvard University, akataura kuti kuongororwa patsva — kwakaomarara PTSD (kana CPTSD) - kwaidiwa kutsanangura migumisiro yekushungurudzika kwenguva refu. 1 Zvimwe zvezviratidzo pakati pePTSD neCPTSD zvakafanana-kusanganisira mabhureki (kunzwa sekunge kushungurudzika kuri kuitika izvozvi), fungidziro pfungwa uye mifananidzo, uye manzwiro epanyama anosanganisira kudikitira, kuda kurutsa, uye kudedera.
Vanhu vane CPTSD kazhinji vanoonawo:
- Emotional mutemo kuoma
- Kunzwa kwekusava nebasa uye kusava netariro
- Kunzwa kwekuvengana uye kusavimba
- Kunzwa kwekusiyana uye kushomeka
- Dissociative zviratidzo
- Kuzviuraya manzwiro
Zvinokonzera CPTSD zvakadzika midzi mukushungurudzika kwenguva refu uye, kunyangwe zvichikonzerwa nechero kuenderera-kushungurudzika-sekushungurudzwa mudzimba kana kugara munzvimbo yehondo-inowanzo sangana nekushungurudzika kwakaitika muhudiki. Njodzi dziri pachena dzehujaya kushungurudzwa mumuviri uye pabonde uye kuregererwa kwepfungwa.
Asi kushungurudzwa mupfungwa, nepo kazhinji kazhinji kuchinyanya kuomarara, kunogona kukonzera CPTSD. Uye kushungurudzwa pamoyo kuri pamoyo pechiitiko cheavo vana vanokura naamai vanopenga. Muchiitiko chehukama hwehukama hwaamai nemwana, kushungurudzwa kwepamoyo kunovandudzwa sezvisungo zverudo, kutora chimiro chayo seyakazara maitiro ekuzvibata akagadzirirwa kukudzora, kukuchengetedza iwe padhuze, uye kuve newe kuti uratidze shure kwaari izvo iye anoda kuona kuti asimbise hunhu hwake husina kusimba.
Chimwe chezvinhu chakaomesesa zvekuve mwana waamai vanodzvinyirira ndechekuti iwe chaunonyanya kufarira kwaari kugona kwako kumushandisa. Nderupi rudzi rwekushandisa kwauinaro kwaari zvinoenderana nerudzi rwe narcissist hwaari.
Isu tinowanzobatanidza narcissism neaya makuru marudzi ayo anogara achida kuve nzvimbo yekutarisisa. Asi vanyengeri vanotora zvimiro zvese uye mafomati uye hunhu hwavo hunotsanangurwa kwete chete maererano nezvavanoda kutariswa, asi maererano nezvavanoda kudzora nharaunda yavo nekuzvidzivirira ivo pachavo, kuburikidza nekushandisa kwevamwe.
Amai vako vanogona kunge vakakushandisa iwe semumwe munhu kuvadzivirira pamurume wavo, semumwe munhu shamwari yake yepamwoyo, semunhu wekuisa pasi nekutsoropodza kuitira kuti vanzwe zviri nani nezvake. Chero chero mashandisiro aanga achifunga iwe - uye vana vari chikamu chikuru che "narcissist" yekupa - iwe ungangove wakasangana nekumanikidza kwakanyanya kunoenderera mukuita.
Munyika yakanaka, iwe unobvumidzwa kukura uchingova mwana, uchifarira rusununguko rwekuzviongorora-uye kutaura-wega. Vana vevanamai vanodhakwa kazhinji havawani hupfumi ihwohwo uye, panzvimbo pezvo, vari kugara vakatarisa pamusoro pefudzi ravo kuti vaone kana vakatsamwisa amai vavo nekutaura kana kuita zvisizvo. Vanoziva kuti chinhu chakakosha kwazvo pasi rese kuyedza uye kufadza amai vavo uye kugara mukugara kwekutya kana vakanganisa. (Zvinotora makore mazhinji ekudzidza kuziva zvinotora kuti "zviitwe nemazvo," yakaoma kunzwisisa mitemo yemadzimai ekunyomba).
Kuwana izwi rakaomarara, kutsoropodza, kuramba chiitiko chako kwakashata sekurohwa mbama nehunhu hwakaipa here? Mhinduro ndihungu hungu. Uturu hwemashoko hunogona kunongedzerwa naamai vanonongedzera kuvana vavo kazhinji hunonyanyisa uye zvese zvinotyisa kumwana sekurohwa mbama. Uye pamwe nekutya ndiko kugara kuchikanganiswa. VaNarcissist vane kushushikana pamoyo zvakanyanya uye vanogadzira dandemutande rakaomarara kwazvo kuti vatonge zvavanoita uye vasasangane nazvo. Semwana mudiki, manzwiro ako anogona kutorwa seasina kugamuchirwa kana akaunza chero tyisidziro kuna amai vako.
Toti unoda ambuya vababa vako asi ziva kuti amai vako vanegodo navo. Panzvimbo pekusununguka kuratidza rudo rwako, unogona kuzviwana uchitaura zvinhu zvisina kunaka nezvaambuya vako kuti ufadze amai vako.
Kana ngatimbofungidzira iwe uri mwana akasununguka asi asi ziva kuti amai vako vanoita godo nekukurumidza kana iwe ukavatorera kuremara kubva kwavari. Kungoratidzira kusuruvara kana kutya kunogona kusangana nekusekwa uye kusekwa. Amai vangu vakaroora baba vangu chikamu nekuti vaibva kwakapfuma kupfuura ivo uye kwavari, kuva nehupfumi mune zvemari ndiko kwainyanya kuratidza kuti taive nehupenyu hwakareruka. Chero kutaura kwepamoyo kuti zvinhu zvaive zvisina kukwana muhupenyu hwangu - kusurukirwa uye nekutyisidzira kukuru kwekuzviuraya kwakarembera pamusoro pangu nguva dzese - zvakasangana nekuzvidzivirira kwakapinza kwakange kuchityisa uye kunonyadzisa kuva panogamuchirwa.
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