Teerera Kumhuri Yako Pasina Mazano kana Kushoropodzwa

“Ndiri kukumbira kuti usape chero kuraira kune chero nhengo yemhuri yako yemwedzi unotevera uye netariro nekusingaperi; kunyanya vana vako. ”

Iyi ndiyo hwaro hwekugadzira inoshanda mhuri simba, kunyanya neavo vari kubata nenhengo inotambura nekurwadziwa kusingaperi.

Kurwadziwa kusingaperi kunotora zvinorwadza pamhuri. Vanhu vari kurwadziwa kazhinji vanokanganwa kuti zvakaita sei kunakidzwa. Ivo vanowanzo kuve vari vega munharaunda uye vanozvibvisa, kunyangwe mukati memba yavo vega. Zvakawanda zvekukurukurirana zvinotarisana nekurwadziwa uye kurapwa. Zvinova zvinonetesa uye zvinoshungurudza nekuti pane zvishoma izvo zvinogona kuitwa kugadzirisa dambudziko. Pamusoro pezvo, zvakajairika kuti varwere vapururudze mhuri yavo iriyo yepedyo chipfuro. Izwi rinoshandiswa kurondedzera kutsamwa kunoenderana nekubatwa nemarwadzo i "hasha." (1)

Vakabatwa

Asi ikozvino mhuri yese yakabatwawo. Zviitiko zvinoonekwa nekukurumidza mukati mekushanya kwekutanga. Saka, ndinovabvunza mubvunzo wakapusa, "Unoda mhuri yako here?" Mhinduro inogara iri, "Ehe!" Musimboti wedambudziko nderekuti hasha dzave dzakajairika mukati memhuri zvekuti havaone mhedzisiro yemarwadzo avo kune avo vakavakomberedza. Musimboti wehukama hwevanhu kuve kuziva zvimwe zvinodiwa kubva mumaonero avo. Musimboti wekushungurudzwa kusaziva. Hasha dzinodzima kuziva.

Ipapo ini ndinobvunza, “Kana mhuri yako ichikosha kwazvo kwauri, sei ungazvibvumidza iwe kuti ugumbuke navo? Ungapopotera munhu wausingazivi nematauriro aunoita nemhuri yako? ” Zvirokwazvo kwete. "Saka nei uchiitira mhuri yako, yaunofarira zvakanyanya, zviri nani pane munhu wausina hukama naye?"

Basa repamba

Mushure mekukurukurirana kwenguva pfupi, ndinopa basa rechikoro. Ndiri kuda kuti ivo pachavo vabvunze nhengo yega yega yemhuri kuti zvakaita sei kwaari kana vaoneswa kutsamwa kwavo. Ipapo ndinovabvunza kuti vafunge, "Unofunga kuti unotaridzika sei kana wakatsamwa?" Nei ungada kuti vakuone wakadai? ” Hasha hadziyeke uye hausi iwe wakasara.

Iwe unoda kuti mhuri yako inzwe sei pavanonzwa tsoka dzako dzichisvika pamusuwo wepamberi? Vari kufara here kana kuti vari kuzvitya? Vakamira kusvikira vaona mamoods auri mukati? Chii chaunoda kuti vanzwe? Unofarira kutamba nemhuri yako here? Unozviita kangani? Unogona here kutamba chaizvo kana usiri mumafaro akanaka? Mhuri yako inzvimbo yekuchengetedzeka uye mufaro here?

Ndiani mukuru?

Ndakashamiswa makore mashoma apfuura ndichitaura nemurwere muhombe wemhasuru. Zvaive zvichityisa zvishoma kungova mumba naye. Aive muzvinabhizimusi wepamusoro-soro aive arwara nekusingaperi kwemutsipa kurwadziwa kwemakore. Ndakamubvunza kuti akambogumbuka here? Pakutanga akati haana uye ndokubvuma kuti aiita nguva nenguva. Izvo zvakazove chiitiko chezuva nezuva uye chakaitika kakawanda pazuva. Ndakamubvunza kuti, "Ndiani wauri kutsamwira?" Akapindura, "Mwanasikana wangu." Ndakamubvunza kuti aive nemakore mangani, iye ndokuti, "Gumi."

Ndakavhunduka nekuti tarisiro yehasha inowanzove iri shamwari. Ndakamubvunza, "Ndiani mukuru ari muchiitiko ichi uye iwe unofunga kuti anganzwa sei ari tarisiro yehasha dzako?" Iye akange asina kufunga nezve iyo angle - asi haana kukwanisa kurega kuti anga achimugumbura zvakadii.

Kuziva

Chikamu chechipiri chebasa repamba ndechekuti ndinoda kuti iye adzidzise kutanga kubva pavanobuda kunze kwemukova wehofisi yangu. Basa nderekuti havafanirwe kupa chero rairo kune mumwe wavo kana vana kusvikira kushanya kunotevera. Hapana, kunze kwekunge zvanyatso kubvunzwa.

Ndinovakumbirawo kuti vafunge nezve zvinotevera. “Kangani kaunopa unasked-for-raira? Iwe unoona here kuti uri kunyatso kuvaudza kuti havana kukwana zvakakwana sezvavari? Unonyanya kutsoropodza here? Unofarira kana kuonga kushoropodzwa here? Ungaita sei? Unotarisira kuti vaite sei? ”

Zvinokonzera

Zvinotaridza kuti mhuri ndechimwe chezvinhu zvikuru mukuparadzira marwadzo nekuzvidya mwoyo. Chimwe chezvikamu zvakashatisisa zvehutano hwevanhu ndechekuti mhando dzakasara dzakadaro nekuti dzakadzidza kubatana nevamwe vanhu.

Iko kudiwa kwekubatana kwevanhu kwakadzika uye kudzika kuri nani - kunze kwekunge izvo zvinokumisikidza usimbe. Saka zvinogona, nzvimbo yakachengeteka uye yakachengeteka mumba mako kazhinji ndiyo ine ngozi zvakanyanya.

Haunzwi wakachengeteka nekuti muviri wako wakakutengesa uye uri kugara uchirohwa nemarwadzo. Ipapo, inotamba mumba mako uye hapana anonzwa akachengeteka.

Izvi ndizvo zvawaifunga mupfungwa here pawakaungana pamwe nemumwe wako uye muchifara nekuvaka ramangwana pamwe chete? Chii chaitika? Chii chaungaite? Iwe une sarudzo uye nhanho yekutanga kuve kuziva kwekudzika kwedambudziko.

Kuporesa kunotangira kumba

Kunyangwe iwe uchifunga kuti nharaunda yemhuri yako haisi dambudziko, ndinogona kukukakaidza kuti ubvunze mhuri yako mibvunzo yataurwa pamusoro. Idzi nyaya ndedzepasirese, uye iwe uchashamisika uye kufungisisa pamhinduro. Nhau dzakanaka ndedzekuti nekuziva zvakanyanya, nharaunda yemhuri inogona kukurumidza kugadzirisa. Isu takafadzwa nekukasira uye kudzika kweshanduko. Mhuri yese inonzwa tariro.

Ichi chinyorwa chakatumirwa kwandiri nemumwe wevarwere vangu paZuva raAmai.

Heano mabhuku akati wandei andaigara ndichikurudzira maererano nekurera vana nekuvandudza hukama hwako nemumwe wako. Ivo vaviri vane zvakakosha uye zvinoninipisa kukanganisa kwandinoita pamwe nemhuri yangu. Ndichitarisa kumashure pane zvakaitika kwandiri nemarwadzo, zvinoshungurudza zvinoshamisa kuona kuti kuda kwangu kusingaperi kutsvaga mushonga wekurwadziwa kwangu kwakakanganisa sei hukama hwangu mukati nekunze kwemba.

“Nzira yakakosha uye ine simba yekubatana nemumwe munhu kuteerera. Ingoteerera. Zvichida chinhu chakakosha kupfuura zvese chatakambopa mumwe nemumwe kutarisa kwedu .... Kunyarara kune rudo kunowanzove nesimba rakanyanya kupora nekubatana kupfuura mazwi ane chinangwa chikuru. ” ~ Rachel Naomi Remen

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