Introvert vs. Extrovert: Inobata Sei Kushushikana Kwemagariro?

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• Kuwedzeredza Kwakakosha Kuverenga
• Kudzidza Kunozivisa Rudzi Nyowani rwekuwedzera

Iko kukanganisa kwehosha uye nhanho dziri kuuya dzekupindazve kupinda kwakakwira muhuwandu hwevanhu vari kutarisana nematanho akakwirisa ehukasha hwevanhu uye kushungurudzika munharaunda. Iyo US Census Bureau uye yeNational Center for Health Statistics dhata inoratidza kuti vanopfuura vana muvanhu vakuru gumi vekuUS vanga vaita zviratidzo zvekushushikana kana kushushikana panopera gore ra2020. Mugore rapfuura, ndaona mataurirwo ekushushikana nekushushikana pakati vatengi vangu vari kunetsa zvinoenderana nehunhu hwavo.

Iwo akanyanya kudzidza uye akaongororwa hunhu mhando ndeenhepfenyuro uye ekuwedzera. Carl Gustav Jung, weSwitzerland psychiatrist uye psychoanalyst uyo akatanga analytical psychology, akakurudzira pfungwa yevanotangisa uye vanopaza muma1900. Akacherekedza vanokanganisa vari kutaura uye kutaura, nepo maintrover ari akadzikama uye achizviratidza zvakanyanya. Zvisingashamisi, vanokanganisa vanofarira marongero emagariro uye maintrover vanosarudza vega mabasa. Nomuzvarirwo, denda raizotamba kune maitiro eanopinza uye rinokuvadza kune anoteedzera.

Nekudaro, hunhu uhu huri kuenderera mberi, uye maintrover mazhinji akadzidza nekufamba kwenguva kushandisa yavo "extrovert" mhasuru uye kuzvibata nenzira inobuda kazhinji zvakakwana kuti vavhiringidze vanhu vakavakomberedza kuti vatende kuti ivo ndivo vanokanganisa. Imwe ongororo yakaitwa nesangano reMyers-Briggs muna1998 yakaratidza maIntroductions akaumbwa ne50.7 muzana uye vanowedzera makumi mana nemapfumbamwe kubva muzana muUnited States. Imwe ongororo yakazoitwa neAmerican Trends Panel (2014) yakaratidza 77 muzana yevakabvunzwa vachizvitsanangura sevanowira pakati, ne12 muzana vari introver uye 5 muzana, extroverts, uye 6 muzana havana chokwadi.

Kune zvakare chikamu chidiki chandinodaidza kuti "extroverted-introverts." Kunyangwe vachiratidzira hunhu hwakasarudzika, kazhinji, ivo vanodawo yakawandisa nguva yekudzora vega pakati pezviitiko zvemagariro. Denda iri rakakonzera kuumbika kwetsandanyama inokwenenzverwa mune aya "makwikwi ekuwedzera" achivabvumira kuwira munzira yakasununguka yekuzivisa. Ini ndinotenda izvi zvakabatsira zvakanyanya mukuwedzera kwekushushikana kwavo munharaunda uye kushungurudzika munharaunda uye zvicharamba zvichinetsa kudzamara kubudirazve kupinda kunoitika.

Kunyangwe iwe uchizviona sewe wekutanga, anotsamwira, mubatanidzwa wezvose zviri zviviri, kana kwete, heano matipi mashanu ekubatsira kudzikisa zviratidzo zvinokonzerwa nekushushikana munharaunda uye kushushikana:

1. Shandisa desensitization.

Kushushikana kunosanganisira kuramba uchipinda muchiitiko kuti udzikise kushushikana kwekuita kwako. Kudzidza mashandisiro echirongwa ichi nguva zhinji kunovaka chivimbo chako mukubatana mukudyidzana. Tanga muzvikamu zvidiki. Funga nguva yaunotora chikamu muchiitiko, huwandu hwevanhu, uye vaunobata navo (vepedyo vemhuri, shamwari, kana vaunozivana navo). Sezvo iwe paunonzwa uine chivimbo, wedzera kuzvinetsa pachako kuti uwedzere pane izvi kusangana.

2. Usazviomesera pachako.

Vanokanganisa vanozvimanikidza kuita zviitiko zvehukama vasati vagadzirira zvinokonzeresa kusagadzikana. Iva nesimba mukuzvipira kwako kufamba kuburikidza nekupindazve-nhanho padanho rakanakira iwe. Hausi mujaho. Usabvuma kumanikidzwa nechokunze; ichawedzera kushushikana uye pakupedzisira ikunonokere. Famba nhanho iri yechokwadi kune zvaunoda.

3. Ronga nguva yekuzorora.

Introverts inoda nguva yekuzorora. Nehurombo, kunyangwe kuwedzera kwekuzviparadzanisa wega nedenda rakakonzera hakuzogutse zvachose chishuwo chega nguva kana kugara wega. Ipa uropi hwako iyo nguva yekudzoreredza kubva mukudyidzana munharaunda kwainoda pasina kusarudzika.

4. Zvakanaka kana ichinzwa ichimanikidzwa.

Tsvagiridzo inoratidza ma introvert anotora zvirevo zvavo kubva kune vanokatyamadza uyezve edza kuzvimanikidza kuti vakudzwe kusvika zvanzwikwa zvakanyanya. Kana vatambi vazviparadzanisa nekusingaperi, vanoshaya nguva yekuenderera mberi nekudzidzira hunyanzvi uhu, saka pakutanga, vane ngura. Kunzwa kusanzwisisika pakutanga kwakanaka. Iyo ndangariro yemhasuru inodzoka, uye inonzwa kuve nyore nekufamba kwenguva kana iwe ukaratidza shiviriro.

5. Dzidzira kufunga.

Tarisa mukuvandudza mazuva ese-ekupinda nemitezo yemuviri wako. Kudzidzira kufunga kuchaita kuti iwe ugone kuziva nguva yakakodzera yekubuda munharaunda yako kushushikana kusati kwanyanya. Muviri wako unopa zvimiro zvemuviri zvekushushikana: kuwedzerwa kwemwoyo, nezvimwe. Kana muviri wako uchikupa izvi, usazviteerere. Ratidzira nzira dzakanaka dzekubuda mumagariro zviitiko zvisati zvaitika. Paunenge iwe wabuda, shandisa inotungamirwa kufungisisa kana zororo nzira kuti uzvidzikame.

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