Maitiro Anoita Mhuri Yako Kuisa Pasi Kana Iwo Asiri Iwo Anokosheswa Mhando

Zvemukati

• # 1 Kugovera mavara ekusarura
• # 2 Kugadzira iyo pfungwa yekuti dambudziko maitiro anoitika chete mune mamwe marudzi emhuri
• # 3 Kusimbisa masimba nekuregeredza kushaya simba kana uchidzidza mhuri dzenyukireya, uye zvakapesana kune dzimwe mhuri
• # 4 Kutarisisa zvipingamupinyi zvakakosha, kwete zvekuzviitira kwavo, muhupenyu hwenhengo dzisiri dzenyukireya dzemhuri
• # 5 Kupomera vanyajambwa nekuregeredza masimba ehunhu uye basa remhuri dzenyukireya mukusimudzira yavo pundutso

Mumwe wemafaro ekurarama muzana ramakumi maviri nemasere, munzvimbo dzakaita seU.S., ndeyekuti kune marudzi akasiyana siyana ehurongwa anoverengwa semhuri uye nemhando dzakasiyana dzevanhu vatinokoshesa semhuri.

Rudzi rwemhuri runoramba ruchinyanya kupembererwa, kuremekedzwa, kukosheswa, uye kunzwa - mhuri yenyukireya, inosanganisira vabereki vakaroora nevana vavo - iri, nenhamba, isingafadze zvachose. Hushoma pane imwechete mu5 dzimba muUS dzimba dzemhuri dzenyukireya. Kunyangwe isu tikawedzera lens yedu kusanganisa pasi rese, uye kuverenga vese vakaroora vane vana vari pasi pegumi nemasere uye kwete vakaroora chete, chete 1 mu3 dzimba dzinokodzera.

Pakati pemafomu emhuri mazhinji, kunze kwemhuri yenyukireya inotungamirwa nevakaroora kana kuroorwa vanogara pamwe chete, ndeiyi:

• Mhuri dzine mubereki mumwe, kana vabereki vakawanda, panzvimbo pevaviri
• Yakawedzerwa mhuri
• Vakaroorana vasina vana
• Vakaroorana vari kugara pamwe chete kana kurambana pane kuroora
• Vakaroorana vari kugara vari voga pane kugara pamwe chete
• Vakaroora vasina kuita bonde
• Mhuri dzinotungamirwa nehama dzakadai sekuru nasekuru, tete, kana babamunini
• Vanhu vanoonekwa semhuri, kunyangwe kana vasina kukodzera chero tsananguro dzinowanzoitika; shamwari dzepedyo, semuenzaniso, dzinowanzove nhengo dzevanhu "mhuri dzesarudzo"

Mhando dzakasiyana dzemhuri, mune dzimwe nzira, dziri kuita nhanho huru. Kune simba muhuwandu huri kukura hwevanhu vanogara mumhuri dzisiri dzenyukireya. Kuona vamwe vanhu vachirarama vachifara mumhando dzakasiyana dzemhuri zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kwauri kuti urarame neimwe nzira isiri yenyukireya, futi. Uye zvishoma nezvishoma, mimwe mitemo nemaitiro zviri kuchinja kuti tibvume uye tigare nenzira yatiri kurarama iye zvino.

Asi zvakadaro hazvisi zvakafanana kune vanhu vanogara mumhuri dzisiri dzenyukireya. Muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva, kune nzira dzisingaverengeke dzavasina kukosheswa, kubvumidzwa, kubatsirwa, kana kugariswa nenzira dzakafanana idzo nhengo dzemhuri dzenyukireya dziri. Mia Birdsong naNicole Rodgers vakatsanangura mashoma acho nemazwi andakashandura kuita mabara poindi.

• Mitemo yekufirwa haipe nguva yekufa kwatete, kunyangwe ivo vari ivo vakakurera.
• Vaviri-venguva refu vasina vana vakaroorwa vanobatwa sevasiri mhuri chaiyo nekuti havana kuroora uye havana vana.
• Vanababa - kunyanya, varombo uye / kana vanababa vatema - vasina kuroora vanaamai vevana vavo, vanotenda zvisirizvo kuti 'havapo.'
• Zvikoro zvinoita mumhemberero dzeZuva raBaba kunyangwe 25 muzana yevana vanorererwa mudzimba vasina madzibaba avo.
• Nzvimbo dzebasa dzinogara dzichiita zviitiko zvemanheru pasina kufunga nezve zvinodiwa nevana zvekuchengeta vabereki vari vega.

Semusayendisiti wezvemagariro, ndinoda kufunga kuti vadzidzi vanodzidza mhuri ndivo vari kutungamira mukutiratidza nzira yekukoshesa marudzi ese akasiyana emhuri. Zvinosuruvarisa, munzira dzakawanda, ivo vange vachienderera mberi vachienderera mberi neropafadzo yemhuri yenyukireya uye kushurirwa kwemamwe mhuri - pamwe vasingazivi.

Bethany Letiecq weGeorge Mason University, mune chinyorwa chakaburitswa online muna Chikunguru mu Zvinyorwa zveMhuri Dzidziso & Ongororo , yakatsanangura maitiro mashanu anobatsira mukubatsira zvisina kufanira mhuri yenyukireya - kunyanya vachena, vanoita bonde - pamusoro pemamwe ese.

# 1 Kugovera mavara ekusarura

Semwana, unogona kufunga nezvemhuri yako sevabereki vako, vanun'una, uye pamwe dzimwe hama. Asi kana vabereki vako vakarambana, mamwe masayendisiti enzanga uye nyanzvi dzinoidza mhuri yako chimwe chinhu: "kuputswa." Kune mimwe mimwe mienzaniso yekunyomba mazita emhuri dzisiri dzenyukireya, asi izvi zvichiri kundirova seimwe yeanotyisa kwazvo.

# 2 Kugadzira iyo pfungwa yekuti dambudziko maitiro anoitika chete mune mamwe marudzi emhuri

Dzimwe dzehunhu hwakanyanya kunetsa dzinoitika mumhuri, senge mhirizhonga yepedyo yevamwe, dzinoitika mumarudzi ese emhuri. Pfuma, dzidzo, kuchena, uye nharaunda dzinoshamisira hazvisi chivimbiso chemhoteredzo yepamba yakachengeteka. Uye zvakadaro, zvidzidzo zvechisimba dzimwe nguva zvinotarisa kune varombo, vanhu vane mwero wakaderera wedzidzo, kana vanhu vane ruvara. Kana, kana marudzi ese evanhu akasanganisirwa, inhengo dzemapoka akashurikidzwa anosimbiswa.

Zvimwe chetezvo ndezvechokwadi nezvemaitiro kana mafomu emhuri ayo masayendisiti emhuri akaratidzira seanonetsa (zvisinei nekuti ndizvo zvazviri), senge "kuwanda-kwehukama hwekubereka" kana mhuri dzine mubereki mumwe. Vazhinji vakapfuma, vakadzidza, vachena varume vane vana vekubereka vane vakasiyana vakaroorana, uye vazhinji vakapfuma, vakadzidza, vakadzi vachena vari kurera vana vega, asi havazi ivo vanoverengerwa zvakanyanya kuramba kana kurondedzerwa sematambudziko emagariro. .

# 3 Kusimbisa masimba nekuregeredza kushaya simba kana uchidzidza mhuri dzenyukireya, uye zvakapesana kune dzimwe mhuri

Wakambonzwa here kuti "vana vevabereki vari vega vachagadzirira zvirinani ramangwana"? Zvichida kwete, kana ako ekutanga masosi ari ezvidzidzo zvinyorwa kana zvinyorwa zvevakaroora vanokoshesa. Munhu wandiri kutaura nezvake ndiiye ramangwana Faith Popcorn, uyo anotenda kuti vana ivavo "vane hunyanzvi pakubata chibvumirano, mutoro, kuora mwoyo uye vane pfungwa yakajeka yehupenyu hwekutanga kupfuura vana vane vabereki vaviri. Kutora chikamu kwavo mukurerwa kwavo kunovabatsira kuti vawedzere kudyidzana nemubereki wavo uye kuvimba zvakanyanya nenharaunda yavanogara. ”

Iko kune zvemagariro sainzi zvidzidzo zvinonyora masimba akasarudzika evana vevabereki vasina murume, asi zvakanyanya kutsvagurudza zvakagadzirirwa kusimbisa izvo zvinogona kutadza kune avo vana uye zvinogona kuenda zvakanaka kuvana vevabereki vakaroora.

# 4 Kutarisisa zvipingamupinyi zvakakosha, kwete zvekuzviitira kwavo, muhupenyu hwenhengo dzisiri dzenyukireya dzemhuri

Vanotsvagurudza dzimwe nguva pavanoona kuti vana vevabereki vari vega havasi kuita savana vevabereki vakaroora (kutsvaga kusiri kwepasirese), vanoda kuti vana ivavo varikunetseka nekuti ivo vari kurerwa nemubereki mumwe pachinzvimbo chevabereki vaviri vakaroora. Kuti vaite izvi zvinogutsa, zvakadaro, ivo vanofanirwa kutonga zvimwe zvikonzero zvinogona kukonzera mutsauko.

Dambudziko nderekuti, havawanzo kufunga nezvezvimwe zvakakosha zvakanyanya. Semuenzaniso, vana vari mumhuri dzine mubereki mumwe vane mukana wekusangana nerusaruro kana kusarudzika kupfuura vana vari mumhuri dzine vabereki vane mhuri? Pamwe, kana vana vevabereki vari vega vachiita senge vari kunetseka zvakanyanya kupfuura vana vevabereki vakaroora, hazvisi nekuti ivo vari kurerwa nemubereki mumwe chete asi nekuti vari kudzorwa, kushurikidzwa, kuvengwa, kana kubatwa nenzira dzerusarura.

# 5 Kupomera vanyajambwa nekuregeredza masimba ehunhu uye basa remhuri dzenyukireya mukusimudzira yavo pundutso

Kana vanhu vari mumhuri dzisiri dzenyukireya vachiratidzwa kuti vane nguva yakaoma neimwe nzira, mhinduro dzinokurudzirwa dzinowanzo tarisa kune vanhu vari mumhuri uye izvo zvavari kutadza. Zano rakakurumbira nderekuti ivo vari kuita sarudzo dzakaipa, uye dai chete vaizoita sarudzo dziri nani, hupenyu hwavo hunovandudzika.

Asi sekutaura kwaLetiecq:

"Kwenguva yakareba kwazvo, sainzi yemhuri yanga ichishayikwa nekutarisa maratidziro akaita hutongi, rusaruraganda, kuita zvebonde, uye kusangana pabonde kwevakadzi, hupfumi uye mhuri, uye zvinokonzeresa pamwe nemhedzisiro yehutano inogona kunge yakakonzera kana kukonzera matambudziko emhuri uye kusagadzikana."

Zvakare zvinofuratirwa ndidzo nzira idzo nhengo dzemhuri dzine runyararo dzinoenderera nadzo mberi nezvadzo zvisina kuwanikwa uye kushurikidza vanhu mune dzimwe mhuri. Panofanira kuve nekutsvagisa kwakarongeka pane izvi. Pane kudaro, izvo zvandinofanira kupa mamwe anokurudzira anecdotes:

• Amy Andrada, amai vasina murume, vakatsamwa apo vana kuchikoro vaifuratira mwanakomana wavo uye vamwe vabereki vaive vakamira naye. Akaedza kuyedza kuri nyore - kupfeka zvaitaridzika semhete yemuchato - uye zvese zvakachinja.
• PaTwitter, mudzidzisi akaratidza kuti pazuva rekutanga rechikoro, ave kutotarisira chakaipisisa kubva kuvana vevabereki vasina murume: “Semudzidzisi wechikoro, hapana mubvunzo mupfungwa dzangu kuti vana vane vabereki vakaroora vane mukana wakakura. Unogona kuvasarudza mukirasi pazuva rekutanga: nekuwanda kwakachengeteka, kudzikama, uye kupfeka zvakafanira. Usandibvunze kuti sei. ”
• Mumwe mudzidzi wepachikoro chepamusoro uye mwanasikana waamai vasina murume vaida kutsvagurudza nezvemhuri. Akawana "nyaya zhinji dzinofungidzira vana vevabereki vari voga sevadariki uye kukundikana."

Pane zita rezvandanga ndichikurukura. ropafadzo yemhuri . Bethany Letiecq akaritsanangura se:

"Mabhenefiti, kazhinji asingaonekwe uye asingazivikanwe, ayo anowana kuburikidza nekuva mumhuri zvirongwa zvakachengetedzwa kare munzanga sepamusoro pane mamwe ese."

Nhengo dzemarudzi ese akasiyana emhuri dzinofanirwa kuve nemikana yakaenzana yekurarama hupenyu hwavo hwakanakisa. Kuziva ropafadzo yemhuri idanho rakakosha pakuwana ruramisiro kune vese.

[Iyi posvo yakashandurwa kubva pambiru yakatanga kuburitswa kuUsina Kuroorwa Kuenzana (UE), nemvumo yesangano. Maonero akataurwa ndeangu.]