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• Narcissism Yakakosha Kuverenga
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Havaiti makadhi eHallmarkmark evanaamai vasingakwanise kuda vana vavo. Muchokwadi, ivo havaite makadhi eHallmarkmark evazhinji amai vedu.

Sezvatino tarisa mukati memakadhi emakadhi ezuva raAmai, tinoverenga nezvechiratidzo chakanakirwa chekuva amai - vanaamai vakazvipira vana vavo, vaigara varipo nekuda kwevana vavo, vaiita kuti vana vavo vanzwe kudiwa uye kudiwa, uye ndiani akajekesa kuti vana vavo vaigara vachiuya pekutanga.

Tinoverenga nezve moms vaivepo kuzotsvoda bho-bho uye kutyaira yega carpool, vasina kumbopotsa mutambo wenhabvu uye vaigadzira brownies nemasvosve padanda vakamirira chikafu chinouya shure kwechikoro. Tinoverenga nezve vanamai vaive vakakwira hurukuro dzehusiku-husiku mushure mekushata, vanamai vaive vakaita seshamwari yepamwoyo - Vakanakisa veMai Vepasirese. Chokwadi, amai ava variko kumwe kunhu?

Kune avo vedu vasina vanaamai avo Hallmark vanonyora nezvazvo, maitiro ekusarudza kadhi anogona kunge akaoma. Ndiri kureva, aripi makadhi ese ari kuti, "Ndinotenda nekuita nepese paunogona napo, kunyangwe dai yanga isiri yakakwana nguva dzese"?

Asi kune vanasikana vevanamai vanonyengedza, Zuva raAmai rinogona kunzwa rinotyisa. Isu tinoziva kuti chero chatinoita hachizokwana, uye zvakadaro vazhinji vedu tinoramba. Saka gore rega rega, sezvo chando chinonyungudika, uye tulip buds inokanda misoro yavo yakasvibira kubva muvhu rakanyungudutswa, vanasikana vakakuvadzwa vanodurura nepakati pemakadhi emakadhi, vachitsvaga imwe inofadza amai vavo vasina kupokana neicho chaicho chehupenyu hwavo chaihwo. Mukutsvaga kadhi risina mhosva ravanogona kuwana ("Ndichikushuvirai Zuva Rinokosha" kana "Kupemberera Iwe!"), Vanomanikidzwa kusakura kuburikidza nemakadhi nezve vanaamai vavanoshuvira kuva navo uye kutarisana nekushorwa nekushungurudzwa kwepamoyo kwavakatsungirira . Kusuwa kunovabata - kushuva amai kwavasingazombove nako.

Tinotenda kuti kana mukadzi ava amai, rudo rwunozvarwa. Uye kune vakadzi vazhinji, izvi ndizvo zvazviri. Shanduko yehupenyu inobhururuka, uye isu takatorwa nevacheche vedu. Ruzha rwekuchema kwavo runodhonza pamwoyo yedu. Tinotarisa kusingaperi kumeso kwavo. Uye isu hatigone kuita sekudzivirira maoko edu kutsoka idzo dzinodakadza. Tsika yedu inovhenekera izvi zvakaratidzwa zvehukama, tichivashandisa kutitengesera zvese kubva manapukeni kusvika kumota kuenda kuinishuwarenzi yehupenyu.

Ichokwadi - kupesana nezvinoitwa naPampers kuti titende - ndezvekuti amai kwakaoma. Rudo rwunosimbiswa nenguva dzeruvengo (saamai vemwana mudiki, ndinogona kutaura izvi ndine chokwadi chikuru). Tinoshungurudzika, tinotadza kudzikama, uye hatigare tichipa vana vedu zvavanoda. Pane nguva dzatinoda kutsakatika, patinoshamisika: Sei ndakambofunga kuti ichi chingave zano chakanaka? Asi zvino mwana wedu anouya otipa kumbundira, kana iko kunosiririsa, kukumbira ruregerero, kana kubvuma kuti, chokwadi, tanga tiri pachokwadi patakati hazvigoneke kuisa masokisi ako mushure shangu dzako, uye moyo yedu inonyunguduka zvese zvakare. "Kunyatsokwana amai" kwakadzivirirwa zvine mutsindo nekutsemuka, kutadza, uye - pamwe zvakanyanya kukosha - kugadzirisa.

Asi dzimwe nguva uku kukundikana kunonyanya kutadza pane kupaza kwakanaka muhukama hune rudo nemwana. Dzimwe nguva chimwe chinhu chinoenda zvisingaite mukuita amai.

Vamwe vanamai havakwanise kuda zvechokwadi mwana wavo.

Nyika haizive zvekuita neizvi; hausi iwo musoro wehurukuro pamai blogs amai kana pamitambo yekutamba, uye kazhinji hatitombotaure nezvazvo pakati peshamwari dzedu dzepedyo. Kana iwe usina kuzviona iwe pachako, zvakaoma kufungidzira kuti vamwe vakadzi vakadzadziswa nematambudziko avo uye vachishuva kuzadza kwavo kusava nebasa zvekuti havakwanise kuona vana vavo sevanhu vakasarudzika vakakodzera kudiwa.

Vanamai vane narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana vanoona mwana wavo sechiwedzero chavo - chinhu chekuti purojekiti irambe kana kusadikanwa zvinhu zvega, mukwikwidzi, uye sosi yegodo. Vanamai veNarcissistic vanogara mune zvavo chaivo, zvakavakirwa kwakatenderedza chiratidzo chavo pachavo se "vakanaka" uye vanokodzera kutariswa uye kunamatwa. Vachaita zvese zvinotora kuchengetedza ichi-chimiro chavo, vasingazive kune iyo wreckage yakasara mukumuka kwavo. Wechokwadi narcissist haakwanise kuumba hukama - zvirinani kwete nenzira iyo vanhu vazhinji vanofunga nezvavo. Amai vanodhakwa vanongokwanisa chete kuona vamwe vanhu, kusanganisira vana vavo, sezvinhu zvinosangana kana kukanganisa izvo zvavanoda.

Psychoanalyst uye chiremba wevana DW Winicott akati, "Amai vanotarisa mwana mumaoko avo, uye mwana anotarisa kumeso kwamai vake ndokuzviwana arimo ... chero amai vacho vachinyatsotarisa munhu akasarudzika, mudiki, asingabatsiri uye asiri kuratidza zvavanotarisira. , kutya, uye marongero emwana. Pakadaro, mwana haazozviwana ari pachiso chaamai vake, asi zvotarisirwa naamai vake. Mwana uyu anoramba asina girazi, uye kweupenyu hwake hwese anenge achitsvaga izvi. girazi pasina. "

Vana vakaomeswa kutsvaga rudo rwevabereki uye tendero. Kana vakasazvigamuchira, vanotenda kuti imhaka yekuti havadiwe. Kwakachengeteka kugara munyika mauri wakaipa pane kugara munyika umo munhu anofanirwa kukuda, kukuchengeta, uye kukudzivirira asingakwanise kuzviita. Mushure mezvose, kana isu tiri iro dambudziko, saka tinogona kungochinja pachedu uye pakupedzisira kudiwa. Vana vazhinji vanoshanda vasinganeti vachitsvaga kudiwa naamai nekutenderwa, asi vanozviona zvakafanana nekuzama kusvina ropa padombo.

Narcissism Yakakosha Kuverenga

Iwo Psychological Weapons weNarcissist Anogona Kushandisa