Kuwana Unstuck: Kukunda Kushushikana uye Kushushikana

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• Kuzvidya Mwoyo Kwakakosha Kuverengwa
• Kusingaperi Kusagadzikana: Pakati peDombo uye Nzvimbo Yakaomarara

Mune chero gore rakapihwa vangangosvika mamirioni makumi mana vekuAmerica vachatambura nekusangana nekushushikana nekushushikana. Pamusoro pehupenyu hwako, pane 25% mukana wekuti iwe ugoonekwa chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo chirwere. Uyu ndiwo mwero unoshamisa wekutambudzika. Zvinoita kunge tajairira kuchimiro chitsva-chimwe chekusagadzikana kwevanhu vazhinji. Isu tajairira - uye zvakajairwa - denda rekuzvidya mwoyo.

Kana vanhu vane mamirioni makumi mana vakarwara kamwe kamwe, Iyo Center for Disease Control ingadai iri kushanda nguva yekuwedzera kuti vawane zvese chikonzero uye mushonga. Setsika, isu tinongotarisa zvepamusoro muchikonzero chekushushikana uye tinotarisa zvakanyanya pakurapwa - kazhinji manejimendi kuburikidza nemishonga. Tinofanira kuita zvirinani. Semunhu anodzidzira psychotherapist, ndanga ndichitarisa kuti sei tiri kutambura nenzira iyi. Inguva yekuti isu tivhiringidze kusagadzikana kwedu kwakatenderedza kubatwa kwedu.

Kushungurudzika kwakajairika muhupenyu hwedu hunokurumidza. Tinogona kutarisa kushushikana sechimwe chigadzirwa chekugadzirisa kwedu kumatambudziko anotisangana nawo. Kushungurudzika mhedzisiro yekudyidzana kwedu kwakadzama nehupenyu izvo zvinogona kutungamira mukukura, kudzidza kutsva uye kugadzirwa. Asi kana kushushikana kukashanduka kukava kunokanganisa kugona kwedu kurarama zvakanaka, kurarama nemufaro. Kushungurudzika kunowedzera mukushushikana. Saka, mubvunzo ndewokuti: sei isu tichitambura neiyi avalanche yekuzvidya mwoyo? Izvi ndizvo zvandakadzidza.

Kufunganya-kwazviri-kunobva-kunoenderana nehukama hwedu nemafungiro edu. Kunyanya idzi ndidzo pfungwa dzinogara dzichitsvaga chokwadi. Tinoda kuziva kuti ramangwana richaunza chii, uye nemhedzisiro yesarudzo dzedu. Asi iro ramangwana iri zvirokwazvo harizivikanwe. Uye nekudaro, tinova nekufunganya apo isu tichiedza kubvisa izvo zvisingazivikanwe. Izvi zvinoguma mukusavapo kwedu mukuyerera kwehupenyu apo isu tichiedza kubata ramangwana. Zvibvunze kuti, "Chii chinonditambudza nekushushikana?" Zvine chekuita nekusaziva kwako nezveramangwana, kutya kwako pakutora sarudzo?

Ini ndanga ndichishanda nemukadzi wepakati nepakati uyo akauya kuzoona pakakomberedza kushushikana kwake maererano neramangwana rake. Akanga aroorwa zvisina mufaro kwenguva yakati rebei uye akagovana kuti iye nemurume wake vaive vasina kubudirira pakurapwa kwemuchato. Vakanga vakura zvakasiyana, vaikakavadzana uye vaive nezvakawanda zvakafanana.Akanzwa kuti muchato wake waive wekukweva pahupenyu hwake. Tichifunga kuti akange asina mwana uye aive akazvimiririra mune zvemari ndakabvunza kuti sei aisarudza kuramba akaroorwa. Iye ndokuti, "Ini handizive kuti ndichave ani semukadzi akarambwa."

Ikoko kwaive. Kutya kwake kwakakomberedza zvisingazivikanwe- izvo zvakamupa ruyamuro uye mikana mitsva - zvakaita kuti arambe akasungwa mutorongo nekufunganya. Akanga achisarudza kugara zvinonzwisa tsitsi mune inozivikanwa pane kutarisana nekusaziva kweimwe nzira — iyo ingangodaro yakamuunzira mufaro. Mubvunzo, "Ndingadai ndiri ani?" froze naye nekutya.

Tinokoka kusava nechokwadi muzvinhu zvakawanda zvehupenyu hwedu. Isu tinonakidzwa nekuona mitambo nemamuvhi nekuda kwekunakidzwa kwekusaziva. Asi muhupenyu hwedu hwega tinokachidzwa nekufungidzira uye chokwadi. Kutsvaga kufungidzira kunokanganisa hukama hwedu, kuziva kwedu uye kuita kwedu kukuru nehupenyu.

Saka sei takave takanamatira pakuda kuziva ramangwana pamberi? Ini ndinoteedzera chikonzero kune mukuru wezana ramakore rechi17 sainzi Isaac Newton. Akaraira kuti kana isu tiine ruzivo rwakakwana - mudanho ranhasi tinogona kudaidza iyo data - isu tinogona kufanotaura zvine musoro ramangwana. Izvi zvakazozivikanwa se determinism. Uye isu tave vakapindwa muropa nenzira iyi yekufunga.

Kutsunga kwakatibatsira munzira dzakawanda, asi pakanyanya zvakatungamira kuhurwere hwakawanda. Tinorarama hupenyu sekunge tanga tichitamba mutambo wechess. Tinogara kumashure toverenga danho rinotevera. Tinogona kunetseka kuti sarudzo yedu ichave "yekukanganisa" here. Isu tinocheka uye dice uye tinoongorora zvingangoitika mhedzisiro yesarudzo dzedu uye tinowana chando. Isu hatifambe kuenda kumberi sezvo iri dambudziko rekutya rinotitadzisa kufamba kwedu kwehupenyu. Kana iwe uchinzwa uchinetseka pamusoro pekuita sarudzo, iwe unogona kunge wakapindwa muropa nekutsvaga kufungidzira.

Kuzvidya Mwoyo Kwakakosha Kuverengwa

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