Kusangana Kunowanzoitika Kunombotungamira Kuhukama Hwakakomba?

Zvemukati

• Pfungwa dzakakosha
• Nzira yekudanana
• Kushamwaridzana Kunoreva Kutandara Here?
• Kupinda Mukukurukurirana Panzvimbo Pekusangana Kusingaite

Pfungwa dzakakosha

• Vadzidzi vazhinji vekoreji vanotarisira kuti kukochekera kunotungamira kune hukama kana kungangoita kusangana kwemberi, kutsvagisa kunoratidza.
• Mafungidziro akanakisa ekutaurirana mune ramangwana kana hukama kujairana nemumwe wako uye kunzwa nemanzwiro akanaka mushure mekubatana.
• Kunyangwe paine fungidziro, vechidiki vazhinji vanotsvaga hukama hwakanaka hunovapo kubva mukukurukurirana pane kuita hukama hwepedyo.

Vechidiki vari panzvimbo yekufambidzana vanowanzo fungidzirwa sevanotsvaga vekuroorana navo. Asi uku kurongeka kwakanaka here? Ichokwadi ndechekuti vechidiki vazhinji havafarire hukama hwepedyo husina chinangwa, asi kuita kwakakosha. Chokwadi chakakwana, kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti kunyangwe nanhasi, pakati pekunyemwerera kwesarudzo dzekufambidzana zviri online uye kure, vechidiki vazhinji vanoona kusangana kwakawanda senzira yekugara zvachose.

Nzira yekudanana

Vakwegura vangarangarira imwe tsika yekufambidzana. Hapana munhu akatarisa zuva kubva kune zvakavanzika zveimba yavo yekurara vachishandisa komputa skrini, uye zvakadaro neimwe nzira singles dzakakwanisa kusanganisa uye kusanganisa. Saka, parutivi penzira, zvakadiniko nevavariro? Vakanga vakasiyana here pane zvavari nhasi?

Heather Hensman Kettrey naAubrey D. Johnson vakaongorora nyaya iyi muchikamu chakanzi "Hooking up and Pairing off" (2020). [I] Vakaona kuti zvinopesana nezvakataurwa munhepfenyuro dzakakurumbira zvekuti "koreji yekutsika tsika" yaratidza kuti kudanana hakushandi , tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti vadzidzi vazhinji vekoreji vanoona "hookups" senzira yemuukama-kunyangwe hazvo hookups shoma dzinogadzira mhedzisiro iyi.

Kushamwaridzana Kunoreva Kutandara Here?

Kettrey naJohnson vanocherekedza kuti izwi rekuti "kukochekera" harina hunyanzvi uye harina kujeka, rinoshandiswa nevakuru vechidiki kutaura nezve dzakasiyana siyana dzekusangana dzinosanganisira akasiyana madhiri ehukama. Nezve "vadyidzani," ivo vanoona kuti hookups inogona kuitika pakati peyaimbove marimi emoto, shamwari, kana vaunozivana navo. Nekudaro, ivo vanoona kuti hookups iri mukana wakawanda wekubatanidza vanozivana kupfuura vavasingazive.

Kettrey naJohnson vanotsanangura kuti kunyangwe vamwe vechidiki vachibatana mukutsvaga hukama hwepanyama ne "pasina tambo dzakabatanidzwa," vazhinji vanotarisira kuti izvi zvisirizvo zviviri izvi zvinotungamira mukuzvipira kana kumbobatana nekusangana mune ramangwana. Muchokwadi, ivo vanoona kuti vadzidzi vekoreji vasingatendi hookups zvinogona kutungamira kuhukama vangangodaro vasina kubatana pakutanga.

Yezvinhu zvakaongororwa naKettrey naJohnson, kusanganisira huwandu hwehukama, mamiriro ezvinhu, kugarisana kwevanhu, uye manzwiro akasangana nazvo mushure, vakaona kuti maitiro ekupedzisira-hookup aive akabatana zvakanyanya nekufarira mune ramangwana rekubatana, uye kufarira hukama. Ivo vanoona kuti zvavakawana zvinoratidza kujairana newawakaroorana naye uye kuva nemanzwiro akanaka mumashure mavo ndidzo fungidziro dzakanakisa dzekufarira kunotevera.

Kunyangwe paine kuwanda, zvisinei, hunhu hwekukochekera hunowanzo kuverengerwa mukuzvidzwa. Kettrey naJohnson vanocherekedza kuti vese majaya nemhandara vanogona kutongwa kana kusaremekedzwa nekuda kwehunhu hwavo, kunyangwe chaiko kana kunzwisiswa. Vanoona kuti vakadzi vanogona kutongwa zvisina tsarukano mune izvi.

Kupinda Mukukurukurirana Panzvimbo Pekusangana Kusingaite

Kunyangwe paine fungidziro yehunhu hwekufambidzana nevechidiki, chokwadi ndechekuti vechidiki vazhinji vanotsvaga hukama hwakanaka hwerudo uye rukudzo zvinomuka kubva mukusangana kunosanganisira kutaurirana kwakakosha, pane kungoita hukama hwepedyo. Tichifunga nezinga rechido chekutsvaga hukama hwakakomba, zvinonzwisisika zvinotevera kuti kuongorora kwakadaro kunogoneka, uye mune dzakawanda zviitiko zvinosarudzika, pasina kuita bonde. Uye zvinopesana neicho chokwadi chekuti hookups zhinji dzinosanganisira kushandisa doro kana zvimwe zvinwiwa zvinodhaka, izvo zvine hukama nenjodzi uye dzimwe nguva zvine hunhu maitiro, hukama hwehukama hunotanga nekukurudzira hurukuro kwete zvinhu zvinoshandura pfungwa.

Nezve hutano hwepamoyo, Kettrey naJohnson vanocherekedza kuti kunyangwe vanhu vadiki vachiwanzotaura nezvemaonero akanaka mushure mekubatana, vakadzi vane mikana yakawanda kupfuura varume yekunzwa kusagadzikana kwepfungwa sekushungurudzika uye kuzvidemba. Sober, kufunga zvine hungwaru pamusoro pekuti (uye zvakadii) zvekuita nevehukama navo zvinodzivirira kukanganisa mukutonga uko kungangoitwa kana wakadhakwa, uye hapana mubvunzo kuti kashoma kunoguma nekunzwa kwekusafara, kuzvidemba, kana kuora mwoyo.

Kusvika pakuziva vangangoita paramours kuburikidza nekukwiridzira, kutaurirana hurukuro inoramba iri imwe yenzira dzakanakisa dzekumakemikari, kukurudzira kubatana kwevanhu, uye kufanotaura budiriro yehukama.

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