Pane Zvimwe Zvikanganiso Zvisingakanganwirwi Here?

Zvemukati

• Kuregererwa Kwakakosha Kuverengwa
• Unoregerera Zvakadii?

Muna 2005, mutumbi waJessica Lunsford ane makore mapfumbamwe wakawanikwa wakavigwa pamberi pekuona imba yake. Akange abiwa, kubatwa chibharo, kusungwa nekuvigwa ari mupenyu, akabata dolphin yake yepepuru. Akatongerwa uye akatongerwa rufu, muurayi wake, John Couey, akafa nezvikonzero zvakasikwa mutirongo muna 2009. Baba vaJessica, Mark Lunsford, vakaudza CNN nhau dzekufa kwaCouey dzakamushungurudza, achiti, "Kwandiri, rufu runosuruvarisa." Achidavira kuti kufa kwemwanasikana wake "kwave kuregererwa," Lunsford akarondedzera kukanganisa kwekufa kwaCouey, achitsanangura, "Ndasunungurwa. "Ndiri kufara kuti zvapera."

Pfungwa yemusikana wechidiki anofa ari ega mumabhegi emarara muguva risina kudzika inomutsa mubvunzo wekuti: "Zvimwe zvikanganiso hazvikanganwirwi?"

Mhinduro kumubvunzo uyu dzinoenderana nekuti munhu anotsanangura sei ruregerero. Zvinorevei kuregerera mhosva? Tsananguro dzinogona kusanganisira zvinhu zvemukati zvekusiya zvakashata shungu, ruvengo, uye chishuwo chekutsiva, uye hunhu hwehukama sekuregerera mutadzi, uye kuva netsitsi kana manzwiro ehunhu uye hunhu kune anotadzira (Enright & Coyle, 1998; McCullough , 2000; Rye, Pargament, Ali, Beck, et al., 2000; Worthington, 1998). Hadzisi tsananguro dzese dzinotora kukosha kwekuyananisa, ndiko kuti, kutanga (kana kudzorera) hukama hwakanaka nemutadzi. Kuregerera kunoreva kuwana kusarerekera kana kunzwa kwakanaka kune akatadzira?

Tsvagiridzo yakaratidza kuti pfungwa dzekuregerera dzinokanganiswa nezvitendero nehungwaru. Semuenzaniso, mutsika dzechiJuda, munhu haana mvumo yekuregerera zvakaipa zvakaitirwa vamwe vanhu; iye chete ndiye anogona kuregerera. Mune ino chimiro, chete Jessica anokwanisa kuregerera Couey, kunyangwe baba vaJessica vanogona kusarudza kuti voregerere kana kusarasikirwa nenjodzi yekurasikirwa nemwanasikana wavo. Mune kumwe kuongorora, vafundisi vechiKristu vakasiyana nevanhuwo zvavo mukufunga kwavo kuti dzimwe mhosva hadziregererwe (Macaskill, 2005). Nepo 34% yevafundisi vaitenda kuti kune miganho kumatadzo anogona kukanganwirwa, 69% yevanhuwo zvavo vaiti dzimwe mhosva hadziregererwe. Mhosva dzisingaregererwi dzataurwa, dzakadai sekuuraya vana, kubata chibharo, nekushungurudza pabonde, dzinosanganisira kupondwa kwaJessica Lunsford. Ruzhinji rwevagari vemo rwakacherekedza kuti kupfidza kunoitwa nemutadzi kunokosha pakukanganwirwa, nepo vazhinji vevafundisi vachizviona sekusina basa. Kuregererwa kuri mupfungwa dzeanoona, uye vamwe vanhu vanodisa kupfuura vamwe kuregerera.

Mune kumwe kuongorora kuongorora vanhu vakaona zvisingaiti kuregerera (Rapske, Boon, Alibhai, & Kheong, 2010), mhosva yacho yakataurwa kazhinji sekusaregererwa (31%) kwaive kutengesa, kusanganisira kuwedzera kwehukama kubiridzira, kunyengedza, kuvimbisa zvipikirwa, uye kuburitsa zvakavanzika, kuchiteverwa nemhirizhonga nekushungurudzwa pabonde uye kurohwa (19%). Zvikonzero zvekuregerera iko kukanganisa kwaisanganisira kushaya kwekubhadhara, kusakumbira ruregerero kana kuzvidemba, kuramba uchigumbura, kutyorwa kwetrust, kusimba kwekushungurudzika mupfungwa, uye mwero wekukuvara kune hukama. Basa remutadzi muhupenyu hwemunhu rakapesvedzera kuda kukanganwira. Kuzivisa chakavanzika hakuregererwi kana ukaburitswa nehama inovimbwa, shamwari kana munhu waunovimba naye. Zvekuwedzera-hukama zviitiko hazviregererwe kana kutendeka kuchikosha kune hukama hwepedyo. Kukuvara kusinga gadzirisike hakuregererwi. Hukama hunogona kukanganisika zvisingadzoreki kana kuvimba kusingadzorerwe. Rufu rwemudiwa harugone kupodzwa, nekuti hapana chinogona kudzosa iye waunoda.

Vamwe vanotambudzwa vanokanganwira kukanganwira mutadzi nekuregerera mhosva. Ivo vanotenda kuti kuregerera mutadzi kunoregerera mhosva kana kuipa mwero wekubvuma kana kubvumidzwa. Vamwe vanoona vatadzi sevasingakanganwirwi kana vakaita vachiziva, vachida, uye vasina hanya nevamwe. Vachitora mashoko Elie Wiesel, Anita Epstein (2010), akapona paHolocaust, akaramba achiti, "Handigoni uye handidi kuregerera mhondi dzevana." Akatsanangura kuti kuregerera kwaizoita kuti zvimuomere kugara naye ega: “Ini handingazvidze kuyeuka kwenhengo dzemhuri yangu uye nemamirioni evamwe vakaurayiwa neHolocaust nekupa mukana wakasununguka kune avo vakauraya. Izvi zvaizongoreva chete kune dzimwe mhuka kuti naivowo vaizokanganwirwa kana vaizouraya vanhu. ” Nhasi, mifananidzo yezviuru zveYazidis yakavharirwa kufa paGomo reSinjar (Krohn, 2014) uye mishumo yevaKristu veIraq, kusanganisira vana, kugurwa musoro kunogona kutsigira kutya kwaEpstein (CNN, 2014).

Pane here mari dzinowanikwa nekutadza kuregerera? Mune kumwe kuongorora, chete 16% yevatori vechikamu vakafunga kuti hapana chakaipa chekuregerera ruregerero, nepo 30% vakapindura kuti hapana zvakanakira (Rapske, Boon, Alibhai, & Kheong, 2010). Vazhinji vatori vechikamu vaitenda kuti kusaregerera kunogona kukuvadza hutano hwemunhu anenge arwadziwa uye hutano hwepfungwa. Kusaregerera hakuna kudzikisira kutambura kana kushushikana kwekusuruvara, kushushikana, kutsamwa, kana kushatirwa. Mukupesana, yakatsigira kushungurudzika kunonetesa uye kushomeka kwekuvhara, zvichinyatso kuwedzera hupenyu hwemhosva. Muenzaniso unoshamisa unoratidzwa mune ya1995 zvinyorwa Kuregerera Dr. Mengele (Pugh & Hercules, 2007) . Eva Kor, nyajambwa weyedzero isingafungidzirwe yaDr. Ndakazosununguka. . . Kukanganwira hakusi chinhu kunze kwekungozviporesa uye kuzvipa simba. ”

Epstein haabvumirani, achiti kubata pamarwadzo “kunobatsira kuona kuti zvakapfuura zvinogara zviri mandiri. Chikamu chakakosha chezvinoita kuti ndirambe ndiri padhuze neavo ndakarasika uye nenyika yakafa navo. ”

Kukanganwira hakuna kufanana nekukanganwa. Kune vazhinji, mhosva dzinonyanya kuvengwa dzinogona kuregererwa zvishoma pakubvumirana kunotsanangurwa se "kuregerera, asi usingakanganwi." Hunhu hweyeuchidzo hunogona kukanganisa kukanganwira. Kurangarira kunogona kuchengetedza kusatambirwa kwemhosho uye mune dzimwe nguva, chengetedza anenge akuvadzwa kubva mukunetswa zvakare. Kana mumwe ari nyajambwa, kuyeuka kunogona kupa zvinoreva uyo akarasika kana akakuvara. Zvinogona kuve zvakaoma, zvisinei, kudzivirira kutyisa kwemhosva kubva pakudzikisira runako uye kusava nemhosva kweakarasika. Kuva nemumvuri wemhosva uye mutadzi akarembera pamusoro peakakuvara kana akarasika zvinokuvadza munhu akuvadzwa. Kuregerera kunogona kusunungura kana ndangariro dzichengetedza izvo zvinofanirwa kupembererwa nezve iye akazvirohwa iye asati ave "nyajambwa."

Vamwe vanogona kukanganwira chiito chisinga fungidzike muchidimbu nekuti vanosiyanisa chiito kubva kumutadzi. Vanosvika pakunzwa kuti chiitiko, asi kwete munhu akachiita, hachiregererwi. Anokanganisa anogona kuregererwa kana akachinja zvakanyanya kuti havasisirizve zvavakanga vari panguva iyoyo. Iko kutenda kwekuti munhu anogona kuchinja iko chaihwo hunhu hwehunhu hwavo kunoenderana nekudyidzana kwedu nevamwe. Semuenzaniso, kuvimba nemumwe munhu anga asina kutendeka kunoda kutenda kuti haachakwanise kutengesa kwakadai.

Kuregerera hakuna kufanana nekudzoreredza zvazvaive; hazvirevi kubvuma kukanganisa kana kupa mhosva mutadzi. Mhosva dzisinga gadziriswe kune vasina mhosva vasina mhosva hadzigamuchirike uye dzinofanirwa kudzivirirwa uye kupikiswa munzira dzese dzinokwanisika. Chasara mubvunzo wekuti chii chinoendeswa kumberi neavo vakakuvadzwa.

Kuregererwa Kwakakosha Kuverengwa

Unoregerera Zvakadii?